WHEN “YOU” ISN’T GREAT.

Funny how lately I’ve been on about people who are comfortable in their excesses. In the sense that some are aware of their bad personalities but are absolutely comfortable in saying “This is me, love me or hate me”.….. Well, when that could be applicable and justified in some cases, it’s often said by those with questionable attitudes.

This morning I saw this image below on Instagram and when this could also be the plain truth , I felt it would give individuals with unpleasant characters e.g (prideful, Overbearing, abruptly rude a.k.a Blunt) the justification to bask in their folly. Screen Shot 2015-04-10 at 11.07.31

With the above image, what happens when ‘YOU’ is just not nice.

I feel it’s not just OK to only acknowledge our areas of growth, it’s necessary to identify, evaluate and make corrections. It’s like repentance. You don’t only confess your sins to God, you need to turn away from them to be truly repentant.


I shared this scripture with a friend this morning, “Do not give your pearls to pigs…” Matthew 7:6

However, the hard reality is that sometimes you are the pig that no one should give their pearls to. We all need growth but some virtues are foundational. e.g integrity, humility, selflessness and walking in love.

No body can fix you except yourself and Jesus, And the moment we acknowledge our dirt and filth, the faster we get washing.
Give yourself time to find your self and know where you need help. Don’t Exhaust people with your emotions or excesses. Learn to be whole, happy and content alone before expecting a commitment from another.

People can’t always accommodate that which you struggle with. Don’t expect everyone to always understand that you need to grow.

Instead, Make a conscious effort to Grow ……..

God help us all.

xoxo

Tosin

9TH APRIL

Hello,

How’s your day going….. Here’s an outfit post from today. My friend Henry came over to see me during lunch break and we took these photos. I’m getting used to people staring while I shoot blog pictures on the road……I love Nigerians LOL. Henry is super cool, He blogs at Thefashdiaries . Do check him out…

Today is my brother Jide’s birthday, and coincidentally I received some lovely cakes from Demi’s desserts, soo yummy! I would review them later so be on the look out…..

My outfit today was impromptu, I rushed out to the office this morning, but I guess it turned out good. I’m back to my hair.

Skirt: Blue Vanilla | Shirt: Primark| Shoes: Bumskii’s store| Bag: Therapy | Earrings: H& M| Hair: All mine LOL ^.^               IMG_4765

 Hope you’re doing awesome!  and Excited about the coming weekend?

Stay Happy

xoxo

Tosin

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EASTER WEEKEND!

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So as promised here’s a post on this long Easter weekend! It was quite an eventfuLL one. On Easter friday I was home all through, but then I received a delivery from Twelve 03 meals. A huge tray of small chops. The customer service was absolutely efficient. They called me every step of the way and delivered to my mum. It was so much I’m still eating it till today. Worth every Kobo.

Let me wet your appetites ^.^ sorry!

Fast forward to saturday, I had a wedding to attend and also my friend Obum’s birthday party. I attended the wedding with my family friend Esther, It was a very intimate yet fun wedding. I got teary eyed at the father-daughter dance :(…..

Remember the Yellow Daviva Ankara I bought a while ago? that’s what I sewed my dress with. I made a simple off shoulder dress with the fabric.  IMG_3682 From there I went to Lekki for Obum’s birthday. I had a quick outfit change then went to the venue. Her birthday was at Lamba’s seaside bar. It was a nice party with barbecue to munch and drinks to gulp.DSC_1166DSC_1168DSC_1160IMG_4637DSC_1178DSC_1159DSC_1188 Obum’s party was fun and I got to meet new people!


On sunday I went to church, after which I wanted to go for SARO the musical, but something came up so I couldn’t attend. Instead I went for the Lagos grill and barbecue festival. I won a ticket from Chef fregz. It held at Muri Okunola park. Many people attended I saw a few known faces, such as Falz the badguy, BMpro, Toju Foyeh e.t.c. There were also lots of food vendors and I had some Mongolian rice and a smoothie. It got dark and started raining so I left around 6pm.

As I was leaving I saw the awesome SisiYemmie! it was so nice to see her, we would have to sit down properly to have lunch soon, we’d also remember to take pictures to prove or dispel our resemblance tales lol.

Yesterday was Easter monday, and I planned to go for a Pedicure but I caught a flu, been sneezing and all since yesterday, But hopefully nothing to worry about.

That’s how I spent my weekend! I had fun, lots to eat and met lots of people…….hope yours was as eventful too.

It’s Tuesday and we are back to work. Do have a fantastic week ahead.

xoxo

Tosin

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Missed my last post? READ HERE

SIX BEAUTY FAVORITES FROM MARCH!

Hello,

Happy Easter! Hope you’re having fun and enjoying the long weekend.  Today I’d be sharing six beauty products I enjoyed throughout last month! Most of which are new additions.

1. E.L.F MAKEUP MIST AND SET SPRAY :  I bought this spray from my beauty joint haul last year, but I hardly ever use it as you see from the image below….. It’s a product I love but for some reason I abandoned it these past months, until recently. It acts as a setting spray after makeup application. I spray it at arm’s length, it first appears wet then dries up in about 30seconds. It keeps your makeup longer and leaves your skin dewy. I absolutely love it! Gets a 10/10 from me.DSC_1219

2. L.A. GIRL PRO CONCEALERS: Makeup lovers know this so no need to over explain. I bought three shades; Fawn, warm honey and toast. I use this for my brows every time I fill them and it keeps them neat and defined. I hardly contour or highlight so these small concealers tubes would last me a long time. For those in Nigeria you can purchase on Yanga beauty or accessoriesng.comDSC_1218

3. V05 TEXTURISING GUM: I posted this on my Instagram some weeks back. I bought it from Sainsburys in January. Used it once and hated it at first. Apparently I didn’t know how to apply it.  It’s one of those things you buy, throwaway and go back to. I revisited it 3weeks back and it had my hair on check. It makes my curls pop, and is best applied with your finger tips then you brush with a soft boar bristled brush. Naturalistas should try this. It costs about £6. Absolutely worth every pence.DSC_1216

4. RIMMEL MASCARA: I love eye lashes, just something them. This mascara Not as superb as my Lancôme but they are lovely for everyday wear. The formula elongates your lashes and the brush shape & size allows you to reach your lower lashes aswell. No hair is left uncoated. DSC_1214
5. GLAM’S NAIL LACQUER: I went to my aunt’s studio to get my nails done a while back and she suggested I tried this. constant fixing of acrylics make your nails weak. I bought this hardener for N1,200 I.e £5. It’s meant to be applied thrice a week. It strengthens your nail beds and prepares it for the nail fixing process. Works very well!DSC_1222
6. PONDS OIL CONTROL TALC POWDER: This product is straight to the point, and it’s been around for a while. I have some parts of my face that likes to produce oil more than others. E.g my cheeks and above my brows. I really don’t know why…… I’m yet to buy a primer,  so on days when I feel a bit oily and I don’t want to touch up with a Brown powder, I apply this lightly with my powder brush. It makes me look fresh and I don’t look white. I also like the smell, very nice. DSC_1221
These are all my favourite beauty products from March.  Are there any you’ve used amongst them? If yes, share your experiences below and if not tell me which product/s you’ve used, loved and you recommend!
Hope your Easter is going great? I’m coming with another post this evening on how I spent this mini break.
Have an awesome day ahead.

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

P.s. My wall paint is from DuluxNigeria in the colour Raspberry Bellini, it’s very bright and is a cross between orange and pink. The texture is Silk/Satin finish.

Xoxo

Tosin

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GREETINGS + VIDEO ON EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Hello!

How you doing? hope all is well and you’re getting geared for the easter celebration? I’m so excited! as I’ve ordered small chops for the weekend and it’s being delivered today. I love small chops! puff puff, spring rolls all those mede mede…..amazing!

Also I have like three events this weekend, and If I attend all three would definitely update you!

P.s don’t forget to vote for me to win the best personal and lifestyle blog in the Nigerian blog awards! It ends today and tomorrow! Follow this LINK to vote. Scroll to number 18, and choose Africanism Cosmopolitan! Thank you!

This video is about Emotional intelligence, as discussed in this POST . Do watch comment and definitely share.

Have a lovely day ahead.

I should come with more posts during the day!

It’s a public holiday today and most people are home! so ensure you catch up with all my posts from the month.

XOXO

Tosin

POSE & POST

Hello,

Sure your day is going well,  It’s past 5’0clock so I can pose and post…..

it’s also about to rain, can you tell from the images below? I tried not to look tired ^.^

I have on my wiggie today from RaefranHair because I rushed out of the house this morning (It takes effort to pack my natural hair, wigs are ever efficient).

Hope you’re doing great and prepping for the weekend….Don’t forget to vote for us to win HERE! (number 18|Africanismcosmopolitan)

Dress: BeFree Street || Brooch: H & M|| BAG: Therapy|| Shoes: TopShop

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Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

Xoxo

Tosin

BACK TO BASICS

Hello,

Here’s an outfit post from today. I think I’m going to buy a small umbrella that I can put in my purse, the sun in Lagos is scorching, I’ve reduced my makeup drastically to avoid sweating, all I need now is a good sunscreen! please recommend a good one I can buy… thank you ^.^.

Also I’ve gone back to my bun. I would soon return to weave but I needed a breather……….Been a while I did a natural hair post/update, would do one soon..

This is one of my favorite dresses, I wear it every time there’s no time to scatter my closet for what to wear……

My weekend round-up is below the cut……

DRESS: RIVER ISLAND| BAG:ANNA SMITH | SHOES: BELLE WOMAN

       


How’s your day going? mine is a bit busy but good so far. Sorry I missed out on the weekend roundup, I had a chilled weekend. Church and mostly sleep……..Although I went to Yaba market with my friend and it wasn’t a pleasant experience. The rowdiness and the shop owners pulling us to check out their stalls was just not nice. Never again! lol

On sunday I went to church with Obum, had some froyo from sweet kiwi(It’s safe to say I’m a very loyal customer) then we went over to my friend Jennifer’s store. She’s a fashion designer, Obum and I wanted her to make some shift dresses for us. I would show you them when its made.

Those who follow me on Instagram may have seen my sunday posts, but here’s an update for those who don’t use Instagram…

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And that’s all!

Have a great week ahead.

P.S. For those in Nigeria,  If you have a voters card, please endeavour to cast your vote. Change starts with you….

xoxo

Tosin     

Also don’t forget to Vote africanismcosmopolitan.com to win ‘the best personal/Lifestyle blog”! You can Vote HERE! Thank you!

YAAY ! NIGERIAN BLOG AWARDS FINAL NOMINEES OUT! 

Hello!

I’m excited! can you tell? lol Thank you all for nominating me in the last few months! I was super pleased this morning when I got the mail saying I’ve been nominated for the best personal or lifestyle blog.

I’d be honoured if I won. So please do help me win by voting. The polls are open and ends in two weeks so I’d appreciate all campaigns, reposts and votes ^.^

Thank you so much for the support so far. I’m very grateful!

You can vote HERE. Scroll down to number 18 and choose the first option: Africanism cosmopolitan. 

If I win we’d all share the reward ^.^

Xoxo

Tosin!

FEATURED: ROYAL ROOTS TV + EXTRA!

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Hello!

So I got invited to a Nigerian TV station, Royal Roots TV to discuss natural hair and blogging in general. I was very honored when I got the invitation, This is my second TV feature but my first live show. I was on the set with two lovely hosts, Derin and Fome.

During the show, I was asked questions about my blog, the health aspect of hair, healthy hair habits, product knowledge and natural oils. Also questions on protective styling and length retention were asked by callers. It was a very lovely experience with a nice yet professional production team. Surprisingly lots of men called into the show, with many loving the natural hair movements except one male caller, who specifically felt the idea was absurd, and that natural hair appeared untidy lol. We resolved to ‘one man’s gold is another’s junk”.

I loved being on set and would welcome more features gladly, thank God for growth and a wider reach. I’ve inserted a clip below from my Instagram feed, for you to watch (15secs)

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After the show I went over to my friend Fedara’s house to sleep over as the studio was located on the mainland . The next day we went to have lunch at ‘The place’ in Lekki. I had some super nice Yam, Plantain and Asun(stir-fry goat meat) while Fedara had Plantain, Efo-riro with Asun. Everything we ordered costs N3,100, I personally don’t take juices or drinks with meals, I’d rather just have water with food, I’m trying to stay fit so anyone who has lunch with me will be convinced to have water too lol.

That’s the beautiful fedara below, shes also a naturalista!

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So that’s how my yesterday and today went!

How you doing?? Sure all is well………

keep me in your prayers as I keep you in mine ^.^

Have a productive week ahead…..

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

Xoxo

Tosin

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ACADEMICS WITH WUNMI: 5 COMMON RESEARCH MISTAKES

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Written by: Wunmi Kayode ACA


Hello Good People!

Let me start by appreciating you for being a committed audience to this blog also embracing the growth that comes with it, one of which is this platform of ‘Helping Others To Excel in Academics’. I appreciate all your constructive comments towards the “academics with wunmi segment” and all suggestions so far, however it would be more awesome if you also dropped a comment in the box below. Further more you can also suggest areas you would further like me to discuss in the research segment.

To the ‘topic’ of the day, in this post I will be considering the common research mistakes we make as researchers.

‘Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war’- Donald Trump.

So stop hating on yourself for not getting it right in the past.

  1. DATA MANIPULATION: I was once a victim here, ‘adjusting’ your data and result to make it look like what you want or think it should be. It’s data remember not information, it’s still in its raw form, it’s to be used just the way it is and whatever result gotten after processing is the true representation of data. In research, there’s no right or wrong answer, the answer is not to be predetermined. The reason you’re ‘researching’ is because you don’t know the answer, if the answer is known beforehand then it’s not research. Don’t be ‘afraid’ to present your true result, just explain whatever result you’ve got critically and advisably support with existing literature.
  2. HIRING SOMEONE TO DO IT FOR YOU INSTEAD OF DIY: A lot of students are quite familiar with this. One of the major things you need to excel in research is to engage ‘smart-work’. ‘Smart work’ not only applies to research but all academic endeavours. This is what these ‘research helpers’ know. It’s not their field but yet they present you with a ‘good’ project at the end of the day. Note that not doing your academic research work yourself makes you incapable of defending the result thus not suitable for maximizing the benefits that is embedded in research.
  3. PLAGIARISM (PUBLISHED OR CO-STUDENTS WORKS): Plagiarism is copying someone’s work or idea without acknowledgement and presenting it as your work/idea. Plagiarism comes with negative consequences more often than not. The thought that some past researchers are better than us is not totally true. These past researchers have documented their ideas and opinions, dare to document your own ideas too. Until you make those ideas plain in writing, they may seem ‘lame’ in the head. To be honest we all have excellence in us, all we need do is to release it. Someone once said how to overcome fear is to do that thing you fear.
  4. LACK OF ORIGINALITY: It’s not that students don’t actually have the ideas, but quite a lot are not optimistic with their ideas nor are they willing to dare to be different. More often, in the process of trying to refine original ideas to soothe the trend or your supervisor, you lose the originality of the work as a whole. What most students don’t know is, supervisors actually want you to you sell your ideas to them, that is, make them see through your ‘lenses’. It’s no crime for your work to have its limitations, it’s part of the originality.
  5. POOR EXPRESSION: Grammatical blunders, inability to express oneself without ambiguity or bias to existing literature. Poor expression could also imply ‘moving in circles about your opinion’ rather than ‘hitting the nail on the head’. What this does is to erode the originality of your idea and aim of study. Don’t be apologetic about your opinion. I remember this was an area I had to consciously work on while writing my masters’ thesis. I was trying to hide ‘behind a finger’ in expressing my opinion. A colleague of mine went through my work and observed this, the review was indeed helpful.

SO HOW CAN THESE BE MINIMIZED?

  1. Engage research (academic endeavour) with the right mind-set, this eases out a lot of mental stress. Check the post for mind-set HERE.
  2. Learn to express yourself and opinion in your own words without ambiguity.
  3. Write down your ideas, writing makes things plain and easy to relate with. Thinking is good, writing your thoughts is better!
  4. Develop your own idea. Be Original with your thoughts.
  5. Acknowledge any other person’s idea used in your work.
  6. Give trusted and intelligent individuals your work to review.
  7. Be honest with your data results and presentation.
  8. Get more familiar with academic literatures, this helps in critical reasoning and gets you more acquainted with the style of academic writing.
  9. Check out references acknowledged in selected materials you’ve chosen to read, this gives better understanding of the subject matter.
  10. Be sure about the data you require for your study, getting your data right gives you confidence in your result.

Till I Come your way again,

Let’s stay Winning,
Wunmi Kayode

Please leave your comments, suggestions, or questions in the comment box below or mail me at wunmi.kayode@gmail.com

The Education segment of the blog is one where you can find resources as a student/prospective one to help you succeed academically. Periodic posts would be published ranging from advice to questions and resources, all of which readily available to help you. I wish you all the best in your academic endeavours- Tosin Alabi( editor)