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Christmas is just around the corner! and I’m big on festivities. This christmas I won’t be spending it alone like I did last year so I’m excited! My baby brother is coming over, so expectposts/videos from us… he’s a character! Anyway this year, there are a few things I want for christmas, some of which I’ve been saving for…
* A NEW TRIPOD: My old tripod did the job, and I had no problems with it, till it broke last week (entirely a result of my carelessness)..I almost cried lol. So I need to get a new one. Would buy a stronger one this time.
* 50mm LENS: I currently use an 18mm-50mm range lens, but I feel a focus lens would be better for personal shots. I have had this on my to-buy list for a while now. So Its imperative I buy it once and for all.
* A NEW PHONE: My current Iphone has served me for 2years without problems, but lately the battery life has been awful. I tried to change it at the Apple store and they said £70, I walked away and bought a mobile charger (Alaroro behaviour). Now that the battery life has gone from 7hours to 30mins lol I certainly need a new phone. Plus I quite like the new Iphone so I may indulge.
* SAMSUNG TABLET: I’m an Apple girl but I don’t see the point in owning a M.A.C, IPhone and an IPad, hence I feel a Samsung tab is appropriate. It’s more compatible to other devices and user-friendly. I run a few social media accounts and I feel its more convienent running them on a tablet in comparison to a phone (It’s too much work load on a mobile phone).
* HAIR STEAMER: As a naturalista this is a great investment. It’s used for deep conditioning treatments. The steam helps to lift the hair cuticles and allows products absorb faster. Hair steaming promotes hair growth, adds moisture, removes dead skin, dirt and leaves hair stronger, smoother, softer and overall healthier.
*SOPHIA WEBSTER SHOES: Remember these shoes I shared in this O.O.T.D . I really like them but still contemplating. I’m not sure it’s wise to use my well-earned personal income on a £380 shoe at this stage in my life lol , but if I get them as a gift! I would rock them well ^.^
What do you want for christmas? I may be doing a giveaway this christmas to one special reader! So feel free to let me know what you want below !
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Hope your week is going great! Don’t forget to catch me tonight on Ebony life TV Channel 165 on the blog it segment! 5:30 pm CAT central African time. With reruns at 8:30pm, 11:30pm and 11:30am tomorrow!
Yesterday was an awesome day, it was my Msc. graduation. I already shared pictures on my instagram, so some of you may already know. It was a great day of joy not just because I graduated excellently but because God showed himself. I have anticipated this day for a while because it’s like a celebration of God’s faithfulness to my entire family.
My academic life since elementary school has quite been a bliss, well until about 3years ago. Throughout primary school I excelled and had awards every year-end party, I got to high school and was still a good student. My undergraduate experience deserves a huge paragraph, so pardon me as I indulge you…
I entered Uni in
It’s another post on 20 Lessons of my 20’s, Thank you so much for the amazing comments, Facebook shares, tweets and emails on the last segment! I’m ever grateful, If you missed it read HERE.
20 Lessons of my 20’s discusses various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman. Today’s discussion is one quite dear to me and ‘happenings’ this week inspired this topic as lesson number 2.
The title Privileges and sentiments connotes, those that have/experience good things in their lives and the notion that you should be ‘humble’ A.K.A apologetic about those blessings. Cases in which sentiment has overruled reality and the word humble has been taken out of context.
All ‘lessons’ are solely a result of my personal experiences, but I do hope they are valuable and worth sharing to someone else. Do have an open mind whilst reading….
1. HAVE WHAT YOU WANT: Growing up I remember watching those Nollywood dramas that taught you when/if anything good happens, you shouldn’t share/tell anyone or else misfortune would come upon you……It’s funny how this cultural analogy has become the behavioural construct of most individuals when it comes to gratitude or expressing opinions about other people’s lives. This past year, I’ve learnt that people have the right to be who they are and want whatever they desire regardless of my sentiment, upbringing or interests.
I had a conversation with someone the other day and I was telling her how I really would enjoy having the finer things in life i.e luxury. And If I could afford the jet set life, I would most likely indulge. She had this condescending response with the need to remind me how charity and philanthropy should be more important. I smiled because I couldn’t remember admitting to her that luxury was of utmost importance or charity was of less importance to me. I told her Giving, respect, morals, charity, and goodworks amongst others are values embedded in me that no amount of wealth can take away. Also I believe that discussing the philanthropic gestures I do/intend to do in the future doesn’t validate me as a good person, neither does not-talking about it make me less humane or charitable.
But I then realised that this is where the cultural/non-cultural sentiment comes in. If one posts images or shares articles on charity works e.g visit to orphanages, community service or make public donations, they are tagged as humble/generous, or perceived as having a sense of purpose because they are ‘helping’ others. While if another looks nice/visits nice places and posts pictures, they are also often tagged as ‘show-offs’. In reality what’s the difference between the two scenarios? but you be the judge.
I’m pro good works, but I often ask why people feel those who like/have the finer things in life are tagged Wasteful/proud/vain/flamboyant? I personally feel people have the right to spend their resources on what they want, either to give it away or spend it on themselves -it’s a matter of choice.
However, it’s nice to give some, spend some and save some, but the truth is other people’s fund management is really not your business or mine. In fact, I think the greater problem lies with those who are quick to express such opinions as regards who is what and why.
Many preachers in Nigeria today face this stigma, one can’t have a fleet of cars or landed properties abroad, without being discussed in tabloids as fake or flamboyant. I am one christian that believes that our greatest goal is not just to make heaven but also to have dominion while fulfilling purpose on earth. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having good things, Ecclesiastes 5:18-20 makes this sink.
“This is what I have observed to be good: that it is appropriate for a person to eat, to drink and to find satisfaction in their toilsome labour under the sun during the few days of life God has given them – for this is their lot. Moreover, when God gives someone wealth and possessions, and the ability to enjoy them, to accept their lot and be happy in their toil – this is a gift of God. They seldom reflect on the days of their life, because God keeps them occupied with gladness of heart” NIV
Hence, do not entertain those who sugar coat their lack of discretion/spite/envy with sentiments.
2. THE THIN LINE: As with anything there’s always a thin line, and in this case it’s between gratitude, self-confidence and sheer pride. Gratitude is simply being appreciative or thankful, self-confidence is a healthy esteem. Now how does one merge being thankful and self-confident without coming off as proud/vain/self obsessed/arrogant. It’s not so simple because you really have no control over what others decide to think. Even Jesus who came as the messiah was called a blasphemer of precepts………
Humility is acknowledging that you are not self-sufficient and more scriptural; its living with the understanding that you are purely a product of grace, subject to the will of God. I observed that the main reason why people are quick to tag others as proud/vain/self obsessed/arrogant is either because the accused really shows those fruits or the pointing finger is plainly spiteful . However, I got some instructions from my life manual on principles of living which have helped me to create a balance either when acquiring things, marketing my strengths or even publicly sharing comments/moments.
a. Do not be empty with/without vanity: I have said in the first point that it’s ok to have vanity(cars, houses, clothes etc; all is vanity) However, I believe there is more to life than material possessions. Now ask yourself what virtues you possess if you lose all your ‘material blessings’? Virtue is “moral excellence” and “goodness”. Ecclesiastes 5:15 explains this point well;
Everyone comes naked from their mother’s womb, and as everyone comes, so they depart.They take nothing from their toil”.
As a believer you should actually invest more heavily on your soul/inner man because everything vain depreciates, see 2 Corinthians 4:16.
Further more, be of substance without possessions, let your appraisal be that which radiates God’s glory and precepts. A heart that speaks louder than acquisitions. i.e. in more practical terms, Strive for “she has integrity alongside She has nice clothes”. In totality, have a full dose of the fruits of the spirit: Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control while having ‘dominion’ on earth.
b. Add Value: I think this is my best phrase. I learnt it from my dad, he says it to me at the slightest opportunity, If I say I’m going out he’d say “what value is where you are going to adding to you presently” I’d laugh at what I considered paranoia. But in reflection I agree with him. When doing absolutely everything, strive to ensure it has a positive impact, either to you or your immediate environment(social responsibility). Avoid doing things for doing sake, avoid being lukewarm. I learnt recently from @adaezeDiana that “In All I do, It’s either I’m being pulled closer to God or farther from him”. Sounds daunting but its true. You may say how does something trivial affect my walk with God e.g a thought, a visit or even an Instagram picture……. but aren’t we accountable for ALL actions of that day? One of my favourite scriptures buttresses this: 1 Corinthians 10:23 “We are free to do all things, but there are things that are not wise to do. We are free to do all things, but not all things are edifying”
c. Mind your business: Tomilola Escada would probably resonate with me on this, we had a discussion a while ago about sharing opinions on others, and she shared with me a scenario where the Holyspirit asked her if the matter was really her business, and I laughed so hard. But then again it’s so true, apt and real. We all say ‘mind your business’, but do we really do? Someone does something you begin to ask yourself/friends why, you begin to analyse the lives of others either mentally or with buddies. I’ve been guilty of this in the past and I have refuted such behaviour. Meddling in the lives of others brings about idleness, gossiping, hate, discord, jealousy and unfruitfulness amongst other vices. There are also many scriptures on this but l would share just two. Proverbs 10:9 When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, But he who restrains his lips is wise. Ecclesiastes 5:2 Do not be quick with your mouth, do not be hasty in your heart to utter anything before God. God is in heaven and you are on earth, so let your words be few.
In essence what have I been on about? …Never apologize for the good things in your life, they may not necessarily be privileges but they are sure blessings! Be grateful, love others, serve and enjoy your life.
And I pray for good fortune in everything you do, and for your good health, that your everyday affairs prosper, as well as your soul_ 3 John 1:2
That’s all for today, 18 more to go. I hope to one day publish these writings into a book/compilation, but until then it’s all for you my blog readers!
Have a fruitful week ahead!
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Happy sunday and happy new month, Hope all is well with you and your week was great! Today was a wonderful day as it was thanksgiving sunday in my church. I have so much to be grateful for, but all my testimonies would be shared in due time. We’re in November and It’s just about 60/58days to the new year….I joined this praise challenge in which till the end of the year you praise God everyday for about an hour. In this challenge You ask God for nothing but stay giving thanks. It’s for those who are willing to exercise faith and watch God be God. so for example if you’re trusting God for his will/a new car/a spouse/job promotion, instead of asking you simply give thanks about it. i.e you say “I thank you God for your will in my life/ my new car” .
I’m a strong faith worker and I truly believe in the power of confessions and thanksgiving. Faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see(Hebrews 11:1). I hope many people are willing to embark on this 60day challenge with me and I’m hopeful for amazing testimonies from us all by his grace!
On a lighter note! Here’s what I wore to church today![caption id="attachment_4491" align="aligncenter" width="629"] I love these Shoes, Would purchase them when it goes on sale LOL : Sophia Webster Buy here [/caption] [caption id="attachment_4485" align="aligncenter" width="640"] Shoes: River Island: sold out but buy similar here |Clutch: Buy Similar here|Dress: Buy similar Here |Hair: Raefran Hair UK[/caption]
Have a fruitful week ahead and keep giving thanks even when you don’t feel like it!
Thank you for reading as always,
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I get a lot of questions form readers asking about university choices for a post graduate course and programme selection. In this post I answer a few questions, and share my personal experiences as a recent graduate. I discuss tuition, application processes, course selection, travel and more. I really
TGIF! Hope your week went great and you’re pumped about the weekend like I am. Today I’m introducing a series on the blog titled 20 Lessons of my 20’s, I’m still in my twenties hence ‘of’ as opposed to ‘from‘.
This segment talks about various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman. I chose today’s topic Unfading beauty: beyond the reflection as the Number 1 LESSON simply because this was the first lesson I learnt in the first few years as an adult. Now I sometimes wonder if this is because I’m female or because God knew I needed to reck that part of me. I’ve once shared my journey on beauty and vanity on the blog Here, but today I’d just discuss a few things I’ve learnt on beauty.
Here’s an amazing piece by my talented friend Wonu Alese, who is a rising radio personality here in the U.K. This is a beautiful piece about Love, humanity and purpose. Listen and be blessed. Transcript below….[soundcloud url="https://api.soundcloud.com/tracks/172784372" params="color=ff5500&auto_play=false&hide_related=false&show_comments=true&show_user=true&show_reposts=false" width="100%" height="166" iframe="true" /]
“We different, colour, hair, height, structure, sense of style, perception about life , religion, social stratas, able, disabled, straight, gay, taste buds, but We all got one thing in common 206 BONES.
Hello beautiful people!
I’d be showing on Ebonylife TV on the ‘blog it’ segment! You can watch me this morning at 11:30am for those who missed the 5:30/8:30pm broadcast last night. I was feeling bad I couldn’t watch it from here, but thanks to technology I got to view the show!
My amazing friend Kemi A.k.a Peachy Kemog (Remember her wedding post HERE) watched it and tuned me in via Skype (she literally turned her phone to the Tv). I was so excited! My family is here currently so we all watched it together. I don’t think I would ever get used to it lol.
I’d be showing once Every week till year end so you can catch me every Tuesday/wednesday at 5:30 pm, with reruns at 8:30pm, 11:30pm and 11:30am the next day on EL NOW, Channel 165 DSTV.
Do watch and feel free to tweet at me when you do!
Oh yes! Today is also a great day! Happy independence to a great country Nigeria! Hope you’re enjoying the public holiday! God bless Nigeria!
Hello! Welcome to another edition of ‘Tosin Tweets’ ! Thank you so much for the lovely comments, Retweets and Reposts on the last one, I am so glad that this new segment is being well recieved. Today’s Topic is Godly content. I already Shared this with some of my instagram and twitter followers, But I would never leave my blog readers behind. So I decided to make this into a full blog post…. The first part was my I.G post whilst the Second part are excerpts from my Twitter time line. Do enjoy.
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