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FIFTY SHADES OF NOTHING

My twitter bio says “say no to indecent entertainment”, and I certainly didn’t put that up to be self-righteous. As a young lass, I believe I’ve been through a whole lot of experiences, which averagely aren’t the norm and I know from first hand experience the impact of the media on a person’s life.

I’m very passionate about positive entertainment via the media, and that’s one of the key reasons why I started blogging or ventured into media. Personally, I feel this topic is a broken record, but it’s still so painful that christians in this day and age still fill themselves with obscure content.

There is nothing as ” Just for the fun of it” I often tell people that every action, word, or gesture we do/entertain MUST be edifying in some form. Be it watching movies or having a basic conversation. Everything must add value.

This weekend was Valentine’s and the movie ‘Fifty shades of Grey” premiered. I never read the book/books and I’m grateful I didn’t. I listened to the review from a friend and I could already envisage the content of the book. This afternoon, an acquaintance of mine shared a link to an article/review about the movie and I read it. It was titled ‘A letter to my children about fifty shades of grey” It’s a Must Read! Here are excerpts of what the author had to say.

“Fifty shades of grey is NOT a romantic movie, rather it’s a movie about a narcissistic man’s controlling and violent sexual desires and his sense of entitlement to use and abuse a vulnerable young woman’s body and mind as tools for his own gratification. It’s all about his needs, coupled with the arrogant expectation that she should comply, regardless of her discomfort, to please him.”

Don’t allow this romanticizing of sexual domestic abuse fool you into believing that you should ever allow yourself to be treated like Anastasia Steele. Please, my son, don’t watch this one day and believe that it’s ever okay to intimidate, manipulate or disrespect a woman like the ‘hero,’ Christian Grey. Nobody, male or female, wants or deserves to be disrespected, manipulated or violated against his or her wishes”


Even prior to reading the article, I knew the movie was a no-no. This last weekend I was just explaining to my friend on why she shouldn’t watch the movie.

As a christian, I’m very cautious of what I watch. This same reason is why I stopped watching Scandal. It glorifies Infidelity, spite, revenge, malice and lust. Lets not even discuss “Orange is the new black”……..besides my sentiments on this particular show, I learnt that the writer left her marriage to date one of the female actresses in the cast, She said upon writing the script she realised she wanted to be with a woman……..

You see, movies, books, music e.t.c are not just expressions of a writer’s creative imagination….They sow seeds in your heart. Entertainment is one of the devil’s key tools in today’s age. He seeks to deceive you, arouse you, enlighten you and put obscure thoughts in your heart. He knows well that any thing that doesn’t glorify God or isn’t edifying in any form is purely useless. He also knows that anything that doesn’t take you closer to God, takes you Farther away from him. The devil is restless, and he would use anything to take you away from the presence of God.

One difference between you and the devil(amongst others) is that the devil knows his judgement. He has no hope. You have hope, you have Jesus, and the opportunity to accept him if you haven’t. He knows he’s doomed with eternal damnation hence he’s trying to gather company for Abyss. Misery loves company.

Proverbs 4:23 says ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”. The word ‘Guard’ in this context means to be a gatekeeper of your heart. To screen, search and assess all things that passes to and fro you.

Nothing is a vacuum, you must fill your heart/mind with something, and with the right content. This post is not just to discourage you from watching fifty shades of grey and similar contents of its genre, but to also encourage you to continually do, watch, read, and hear only edifying things. Don’t deceive yourself and say you’re just being curious that’s why you watch/watched a well staged profanity. God hates luke warm, No greys with Jesus. It’s either black or white, or Hot or cold.

I pray that God fortifies us with an extra dose of discernment and grace to know and do that which pleases him. We will not miss heaven and live a mediocre life in Jesus Name!

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
xoxo
Tosin

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ABOUT A YEAR AGO TAG + GIVEAWAY WINNER

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So I was tagged by the wonderful sisiyemmie a while back to do this video, and I’ve filmed it twice….. but lost the footage. So please bear with me for my lateness! The video is a recap of 2014 and I answered all the questions below.
1) Biggest Accomplishment of 2014
2) Best Memory of 2014
3) Biggest Obstacle of 2014
4) Top 5 favorite beauty products of 2014
5) Bloopers from 2014 (I skipped this)
6) Favorite Mainstream YouTubers and Non-Mainstream YouTubers (Skipped my mind)
7) Regret(s) of 2014
8) Most Memorable phrases from the year 2014
9) Most Embarrassing Moment of 2014
10) Lessons Learned from 2014
11) Goals for 2015
12) What I’m looking forward to in the New Year (2015)

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My week started great, went jogging this morning and felt refreshed….My resolution for the week is to take only water no juices or fizzy drinks…I found 2-3 pimples on my face and i’m not happy about that. so operation clean eating, more water, exercise and more sleep.

************ The Giveaway winner for the 12 cupcakes from Vanilla Cake Factory is @Sisisingele, I chose her because she wanted to gift out the cupcakes to her friend(which is what love is about). She also followed the rules. Congrats Sisi please send your full name, address and phone number to info@tosinalabi.com !

Another set of cupcakes to be given out today, so watch out ^.^

Hope you all are doing great? Have a productive week ahead

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
Have a great day ahead! speak to you soon…
xoxo
Tosin

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twitter @LLynn_J
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VIDEO UPDATE!

Hello!
It’s quite a chore filming in Nigeria lol, If it’s not generator noise its the Aircondition in the background, but nothing shall spoil my productivity for the day, This is a video for my youtube hunnies, on Life update in Nigeria. do watch, share, comment and subscribe ^.^

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xoxo

Tosin

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WHAT I’VE BEEN UP TO!

Hello, It’s almost a week since I’ve been in Lagos and I’ve been moving up and down. From catching up with family to getting things fixed. For some reason everything in my room was broken when I got back. The bulbs were out, bathroom was funny looking and the room full of cobwebs. I used […]

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TOUCHDOWN LAGOS!

Hello! I’m so excited to be home, I got in last night *covers face*, this is probably the least planned trip ever, I knew I was going to visit Nigeria but I wasn’t sure exactly when, so when my dad booked a ticket I packed up and followed suit. My mum found out I was […]

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DECEPTION

Lately I’ve been pondering on what exactly causes Christians to fall into sin…….is it lack of faith or purely an act of disobedience? Are people who are consciously aware of the repercussions of their actions that negligent? Christians, people who know the reality of heaven and hell…(or are we ignorant?), Or Is the world that […]

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NOMINATE ME! NIGERIAN BLOG AWARDS: BEST PERSONAL OR LIFESTYLE BLOG

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The Nigerian blog awards for 2014 is open! and I’d like to participate! please go over there and nominate me so I can be shortlisted! If you’d like to support me, or you think I worked hard last year and you’d like to see this ministry move forward, Please kindly fill out the nomination form! ^.^ The rule is simple! scroll down to number 18 on this LINK, and enter my blog name: africanismcosmopolitan.com for the ‘best personal and lifestyle blog’, no need for wwww or http. I can be nominated for up to 3 categories. PLEASE COPY AND PASTE THE EXACT BLOG NAME IF YOU DONT WANT TO TYPE IT OUTafricanismcosmopolitan.com’

IMPORTANT: Please use your most used email address: If you don’t you will not receive their email asking you to validate your submission and my nomination will NOT be counted. Screen Shot 2015-01-13 at 22.53.27

Thank you and God bless!

xx

Tosin!

 

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WHY YOU SHOULD STUDY THE BIBLE AND HOW….

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I filmed this video for everyone who may need encouragement on studying the bible. Thank you for the comments on the previous video on YouTube and also here on the blog. I appreciate the feedback. This video discusses why you should study the word and tips for an effective bible study. These are tips that has worked for me and I hope it’s valuable to you to..

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Have a great day ahead!

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xoxo

Tosin!

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TO A BETTER LIFE

Hello, Here’s a video expressing a few things I’d like to share with you all for this new year, I discuss various topics and how a few life changes impacted my life. Do watch in HD , share, comment and subscribe. Have a great day ahead, Got questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment […]

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3. KNOW THYSELF

IMG_3415Hello there!

It’s been a while on ’20 Lessons of my 20’s ( A segment that discusses various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman). Thank you for the comments, shares and screenshots from the last topic! I’m truly grateful it resonates with you. But incase you missed it, Read HERE. Today’s topic is one that is almost the bedrock of anyone on a self-development journey.

“Know thyself” connotes; Being in tune with you, self acceptance, personal discovery and understanding how you function”.

As usual, All ‘lessons’ are solely a result of my personal experiences, but I do hope they are valuable and worth sharing to someone else. Do have an open mind whilst reading….

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Growing up I had the ‘I too know” Syndrome, which is one that I assumed I knew everything about myself or situations, I felt I was self-sufficient even though I was probably the least self-aware person at that time. I remember the first time I heard the quote “Know thyself”, which was originally coined by Plato & Socrates… The quote made sense to me, but I had no in-depth understanding.

I just assumed “Duhh! If I don’t know myself who will.

Now in retrospect, think about it…….If you don’t know yourself, who will understand you? who will be able to cater to your true emotional needs, how will you identify the people who improve you, if you don’t even know what your entity needs.

I often say there’s no specific period for self-development, everyday of your life should have that goal…“Today, I want to do and be better’. The human body and mind has been designed to be every changing. In biology, the moment something stops changing/growing its considered dead. I feel this the same with humans, we cannot afford to ‘Hibernate’ while alive.

I did a post in the past on the importance of self-reflection (Read HERE) and I stated out the benefits, so I would not bore you with a repeat. Self reflection is simply looking inward. Constantly doing a self assessment/checkup. It may sound obvious, but you’d realise that many do not really ‘self-reflect’.

The first Key to knowing yourself is to observe. To observe means to “Notice or perceive (something) and register it as being significant“———-Keyword ‘significant‘.

Now ask yourself, those things, feelings or actions you notice about yourself (if you do ‘notice’), How important do you acknowledge it? Many of us have a clear idea of our personas, but we do so little about it. Forgetting that who we are and what we do controls what we get.

Let me put it this way——Imagine you knew your strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, emotion sensory triggers and thresholds, wouldn’t it be easier to excel, set boundaries, succeed at careers, remain joyful, have great friends and even get upset a little less.

People often say you have no control over how people choose to see you, listen or respond to you….. To an extent that’s true, but I feel you have control over your life, how you feel, perceptions and relationships with those who matter to you.

Now you may say ‘Tosin, I know myself’……..here’s what I say, I don’t want you to ‘just’ know yourself, I want you to know, understand, accept, develop and apply ‘your-self truth’ to your life……

Your life is your solitude(alone-ness), your Job, your family, your relationships, your faith, your environment and every situation you find/place yourself in.

KNOWING YOURSELF IS A LIFE JOURNEY because feelings, wants, needs, and opinions change. But amidst all, you should always think. Bishop Oyedepo says a “thinking man is a ruler, he rules his world. A non-thinking man is a slave to his world”.

I agree. Thinking is a required mental activity in knowing yourself. it aids acknowledgement of growth areas, reflections, idea generation and future projections.

Personally, I feel at this stage in my life, I have a better idea of who I am, I know what I like, I also know how I function.

I can pick friends who I genuinely enjoy and appreciate, I can say No to what makes me sad, I can make decisions without being sentimental, I am more objective in my reasoning, I can ignore things that may trigger a negative emotion, I can use words that perfectly express how I truly feel. I no longer invest on temporary joys that leave me bitter after. I know what I want from life and I can work around my personality and strengths to achieve it. I also acknowledge that whatever I think I can do right now, there’s always a better/innovative way to it, because there’s always room for growth/improvement.

All the above is/was only possible through observing my behavioral patterns, emotions, actions-outcomes and perceptions of me from the outside world. My keys to a better understanding of ‘self’ is straightforward: REFLECT, OBSERVE & ASSESS, LET IT SINK, DEVELOP & IMPLEMENT.

” 2 Corinthians 13:5 Don’t drift along taking everything for granted. Give yourselves regular checkups. You need firsthand evidence, not mere hearsay, that Jesus Christ is in you. Test it out. If you fail the test, do something about it.”

Doing this, you’d be able to overcome many fears, stay on your lane, make better decisions, avoid negativity and over all live a happier life.

With all that’s been said…I want you to know I’m saying all these from a standpoint of humility, I do not want to come off as self-absorbed, Rather I want you to see this from the perspective of someone who once struggled but didn’t need to….if only she knew herself better.

furthermore, There is no such thing as perfection, What seems like perfection is only people who maximize their strengths and suppress their weaknesses”—one of my favourite quotes.


In conclusion, Man is purely a work of the maker, and who can know the clay better than the potter…..no one. A relationship with God brings everything to light, God delights in the one that seek and please him, he’s even more that ready to aid the self discovery process. See what King David said in psalms 139:23

“Investigate my life, O God,
find out everything about me;
Cross-examine and test me,
get a clear picture of what I’m about;
See for yourself whether I’ve done anything wrong—
then guide me on the road to eternal life”

David was a great man, a man after God’s heart.

I pray that God reveals himself to us all, be our present help in our time of need and we all become a living manifestation of our God ordained purpose on earth.

Have a lovely weekend ahead!

17 Lessons to go. I hope to one day publish these writings into a book/compilation, but until then it’s all for you my blog readers!

All the best.

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you

xoxo

Tosin

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