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Hello all! I’d be speaking at the complete woman conference 2.0 with other amazing women. I’m absolutely grateful to God for this opportunity and can’t wait to fellowship with you. The conference promises to be impactful and I’d love to see you there. Registration has begun so you can register HERE or at the door. […]

ENCOURAGING YOURSELF IN THE LORD

Posted on October 1, 2016 Leave a Comment

WHEN “YOU” ISN’T GREAT.

Posted on April 10, 2015 4 Comments

Funny how lately I’ve been on about people who are comfortable in their excesses. In the sense that some are aware of their bad personalities but are absolutely comfortable in saying “This is me, love me or hate me”…… Well, when that could be applicable and justified in some cases, it’s often said by those with questionable attitudes.

This morning I saw this image below on Instagram and when this could also be the plain truth , I felt it would give individuals with unpleasant characters e.g (prideful, Overbearing, abruptly rude a.k.a Blunt) the justification to bask in their folly.

With the above image, what happens when ‘YOU’ is just not nice.

I feel it’s not just OK to only acknowledge our areas of growth, it’s necessary to identify, evaluate and make corrections. It’s like repentance. You don’t only confess your sins to God, you need to turn away from them to be truly repentant.

I shared this scripture with a friend this morning, “Do not give your pearls to pigs…” Matthew 7:6

However, the hard reality is that sometimes you are the pig that no one should give their pearls to. We all need growth but some virtues are foundational. e.g integrity, humility, selflessness and walking in love.

No body can fix you except yourself and Jesus, And the moment we acknowledge our dirt and filth, the faster we get washing.
Give yourself time to find your self and know where you need help. Don’t Exhaust people with your emotions or excesses. Learn to be whole, happy and content alone before expecting a commitment from another.

People can’t always accommodate that which you struggle with. Don’t expect everyone to always understand that you need to grow.

Instead, Make a conscious effort to Grow ……..

God help us all.

xoxo

Tosin

GREETINGS + VIDEO ON EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Posted on April 3, 2015 Leave a Comment

Hello! How you doing? hope all is well and you’re getting geared for the easter celebration? I’m so excited! as I’ve ordered small chops for the weekend and it’s being delivered today. I love small chops! puff puff, spring rolls all those mede mede…..amazing! Also I have like three events this weekend, and If I […]

FIFTY SHADES OF NOTHING

Posted on February 16, 2015 22 Comments

My twitter bio says “say no to indecent entertainment”, and I certainly didn’t put that up to be self-righteous. As a young lass, I believe I’ve been through a whole lot of experiences, which averagely aren’t the norm and I know from first hand experience the impact of the media on a person’s life.

I’m very passionate about positive entertainment via the media, and that’s one of the key reasons why I started blogging or ventured into media. Personally, I feel this topic is a broken record, but it’s still so painful that christians in this day and age still fill themselves with obscure content.

There is nothing as ” Just for the fun of it” I often tell people that every action, word, or gesture we do/entertain MUST be edifying in some form. Be it watching movies or having a basic conversation. Everything must add value.

This weekend was Valentine’s and the movie ‘Fifty shades of Grey” premiered. I never read the book/books and I’m grateful I didn’t. I listened to the review from a friend and I could already envisage the content of the book. This afternoon, an acquaintance of mine shared a link to an article/review about the movie and I read it. It was titled ‘A letter to my children about fifty shades of grey” It’s a Must Read! Here are excerpts of what the author had to say.

“Fifty shades of grey is NOT a romantic movie, rather it’s a movie about a narcissistic man’s controlling and violent sexual desires and his sense of entitlement to use and abuse a vulnerable young woman’s body and mind as tools for his own gratification. It’s all about his needs, coupled with the arrogant expectation that she should comply, regardless of her discomfort, to please him.”

“Don’t allow this romanticizing of sexual domestic abuse fool you into believing that you should ever allow yourself to be treated like Anastasia Steele. Please, my son, don’t watch this one day and believe that it’s ever okay to intimidate, manipulate or disrespect a woman like the ‘hero,’ Christian Grey. Nobody, male or female, wants or deserves to be disrespected, manipulated or violated against his or her wishes”

Even prior to reading the article, I knew the movie was a no-no. This last weekend I was just explaining to my friend on why she shouldn’t watch the movie.

As a christian, I’m very cautious of what I watch. This same reason is why I stopped watching Scandal. It glorifies Infidelity, spite, revenge, malice and lust. Lets not even discuss “Orange is the new black”……..besides my sentiments on this particular show, I learnt that the writer left her marriage to date one of the female actresses in the cast, She said upon writing the script she realised she wanted to be with a woman……..

You see, movies, books, music e.t.c are not just expressions of a writer’s creative imagination….They sow seeds in your heart. Entertainment is one of the devil’s key tools in today’s age. He seeks to deceive you, arouse you, enlighten you and put obscure thoughts in your heart. He knows well that any thing that doesn’t glorify God or isn’t edifying in any form is purely useless. He also knows that anything that doesn’t take you closer to God, takes you Farther away from him. The devil is restless, and he would use anything to take you away from the presence of God.

One difference between you and the devil(amongst others) is that the devil knows his judgement. He has no hope. You have hope, you have Jesus, and the opportunity to accept him if you haven’t. He knows he’s doomed with eternal damnation hence he’s trying to gather company for Abyss. Misery loves company.

Proverbs 4:23 says ‘Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it”. The word ‘Guard’ in this context means to be a gatekeeper of your heart. To screen, search and assess all things that passes to and fro you.

Nothing is a vacuum, you must fill your heart/mind with something, and with the right content. This post is not just to discourage you from watching fifty shades of grey and similar contents of its genre, but to also encourage you to continually do, watch, read, and hear only edifying things. Don’t deceive yourself and say you’re just being curious that’s why you watch/watched a well staged profanity. God hates luke warm, No greys with Jesus. It’s either black or white, or Hot or cold.

I pray that God fortifies us with an extra dose of discernment and grace to know and do that which pleases him. We will not miss heaven and live a mediocre life in Jesus Name!

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
xoxo
Tosin

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TO A BETTER LIFE

Posted on January 5, 2015 14 Comments

Hello, Here’s a video expressing a few things I’d like to share with you all for this new year, I discuss various topics and how a few life changes impacted my life. Do watch in HD , share, comment and subscribe. Have a great day ahead, Got questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment […]

UNFADING BEAUTY (1)

Posted on October 24, 2014 7 Comments

Hello people!

TGIF! Hope your week went great and you’re pumped about the weekend like I am. Today I’m introducing a series on the blog titled 20 Lessons of my 20’s, I’m still in my twenties hence ‘of’ as opposed to ‘from‘.

This segment talks about various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman. I chose today’s topic Unfading beauty: beyond the reflection as the Number 1 LESSON simply because this was the first lesson I learnt in the first few years as an adult. Now I sometimes wonder if this is because I’m female or because God knew I needed to reck that part of me. I’ve once shared my journey on beauty and vanity on the blog Here, but today I’d just discuss a few things I’ve learnt on beauty.