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RUNNING A SIDE BUSINESS AND YOUR DAY JOB

Hello I’ve always wanted to have a stable business alongside my professional career . It’s absolutely interesting to see how it’s easy to write down goals but yet struggle to achieve them. My idea of a stable business is one with structure, well-kept records, an efficient business module, recurring clients/customers and sustainable profits. Very few […]

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  FASHION FINDS : MULES

img_0903-0 Hello!

So if you follow my blog consistently you’d know mules are my thing. So what are they exactly?

Mule pronounced ‘Meule’, is originally a French word referring to a style of shoe which can backless and can either be open/closed toe. Mules also vary in style and heel height.

I absolutely love the fact that they are like slippers yet stylish. I often say ‘wearing a mules on any casual outfit takes you from 1 to 100 instantly’.

I have about four different pairs and

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VALENTINE’S GIVEAWAY WITH THE VANILLA CAKE FACTORY!

Hello! Valentine’s day is just around the corner and I’m having a giveaway (or giveaways) ^.^ This first Giveaway is a set of 12 cupcakes from @vanilla_cake_factory ! They make exquisite, delicious and affordable cakes. Based in Ibadan but deliver to all axis of Nigeria. To win this delightful box, the rules are simple! 1. […]

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VIDEO UPDATE!

Hello!
It’s quite a chore filming in Nigeria lol, If it’s not generator noise its the Aircondition in the background, but nothing shall spoil my productivity for the day, This is a video for my youtube hunnies, on Life update in Nigeria. do watch, share, comment and subscribe ^.^

KINDLY WATCH IN HD FOR PREMIUM QUALITY(Choose 1080hd on the settings tab at the base of the video)

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Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

xoxo

Tosin

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6 FREE APPS THAT IMPROVE YOUR IMAGING EXPERIENCE

IMG_1665 copyHello!

When it comes to blogging and social media, presentation is key…F

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3. KNOW THYSELF

IMG_3415Hello there!

It’s been a while on ’20 Lessons of my 20’s ( A segment that discusses various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman). Thank you for the comments, shares and screenshots from the last topic! I’m truly grateful it resonates with you. But incase you missed it, Read HERE. Today’s topic is one that is almost the bedrock of anyone on a self-development journey.

“Know thyself” connotes; Being in tune with you, self acceptance, personal discovery and understanding how you function”.

As usual, All ‘lessons’ are solely a result of my personal experiences, but I do hope they are valuable and worth sharing to someone else. Do have an open mind whilst reading….

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Growing up I had the ‘I too know” Syndrome, which is one that I assumed I knew everything about myself or situations, I felt I was self-sufficient even though I was probably the least self-aware person at that time. I remember the first time I heard the quote “Know thyself”, which was originally coined by Plato & Socrates… The quote made sense to me, but I had no in-depth understanding.

I just assumed “Duhh! If I don’t know myself who will.

Now in retrospect, think about it…….If you don’t know yourself, who will understand you? who will be able to cater to your true emotional needs, how will you identify the people who improve you, if you don’t even know what your entity needs.

I often say there’s no specific period for self-development, everyday of your life should have that goal…“Today, I want to do and be better’. The human body and mind has been designed to be every changing. In biology, the moment something stops changing/growing its considered dead. I feel this the same with humans, we cannot afford to ‘Hibernate’ while alive.

I did a post in the past on the importance of self-reflection (Read HERE) and I stated out the benefits, so I would not bore you with a repeat. Self reflection is simply looking inward. Constantly doing a self assessment/checkup. It may sound obvious, but you’d realise that many do not really ‘self-reflect’.

The first Key to knowing yourself is to observe. To observe means to “Notice or perceive (something) and register it as being significant“———-Keyword ‘significant‘.

Now ask yourself, those things, feelings or actions you notice about yourself (if you do ‘notice’), How important do you acknowledge it? Many of us have a clear idea of our personas, but we do so little about it. Forgetting that who we are and what we do controls what we get.

Let me put it this way——Imagine you knew your strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, emotion sensory triggers and thresholds, wouldn’t it be easier to excel, set boundaries, succeed at careers, remain joyful, have great friends and even get upset a little less.

People often say you have no control over how people choose to see you, listen or respond to you….. To an extent that’s true, but I feel you have control over your life, how you feel, perceptions and relationships with those who matter to you.

Now you may say ‘Tosin, I know myself’……..here’s what I say, I don’t want you to ‘just’ know yourself, I want you to know, understand, accept, develop and apply ‘your-self truth’ to your life……

Your life is your solitude(alone-ness), your Job, your family, your relationships, your faith, your environment and every situation you find/place yourself in.

KNOWING YOURSELF IS A LIFE JOURNEY because feelings, wants, needs, and opinions change. But amidst all, you should always think. Bishop Oyedepo says a “thinking man is a ruler, he rules his world. A non-thinking man is a slave to his world”.

I agree. Thinking is a required mental activity in knowing yourself. it aids acknowledgement of growth areas, reflections, idea generation and future projections.

Personally, I feel at this stage in my life, I have a better idea of who I am, I know what I like, I also know how I function.

I can pick friends who I genuinely enjoy and appreciate, I can say No to what makes me sad, I can make decisions without being sentimental, I am more objective in my reasoning, I can ignore things that may trigger a negative emotion, I can use words that perfectly express how I truly feel. I no longer invest on temporary joys that leave me bitter after. I know what I want from life and I can work around my personality and strengths to achieve it. I also acknowledge that whatever I think I can do right now, there’s always a better/innovative way to it, because there’s always room for growth/improvement.

All the above is/was only possible through observing my behavioral patterns, emotions, actions-outcomes and perceptions of me from the outside world. My keys to a better understanding of ‘self’ is straightforward: REFLECT, OBSERVE & ASSESS, LET IT SINK, DEVELOP & IMPLEMENT.

” 2 Corinthians 13:5 Don’t drift along taking everything for granted. Give yourselves regular checkups. You need firsthand evidence, not mere hearsay, that Jesus Christ is in you. Test it out. If you fail the test, do something about it.”

Doing this, you’d be able to overcome many fears, stay on your lane, make better decisions, avoid negativity and over all live a happier life.

With all that’s been said…I want you to know I’m saying all these from a standpoint of humility, I do not want to come off as self-absorbed, Rather I want you to see this from the perspective of someone who once struggled but didn’t need to….if only she knew herself better.

furthermore, There is no such thing as perfection, What seems like perfection is only people who maximize their strengths and suppress their weaknesses”—one of my favourite quotes.


In conclusion, Man is purely a work of the maker, and who can know the clay better than the potter…..no one. A relationship with God brings everything to light, God delights in the one that seek and please him, he’s even more that ready to aid the self discovery process. See what King David said in psalms 139:23

“Investigate my life, O God,
find out everything about me;
Cross-examine and test me,
get a clear picture of what I’m about;
See for yourself whether I’ve done anything wrong—
then guide me on the road to eternal life”

David was a great man, a man after God’s heart.

I pray that God reveals himself to us all, be our present help in our time of need and we all become a living manifestation of our God ordained purpose on earth.

Have a lovely weekend ahead!

17 Lessons to go. I hope to one day publish these writings into a book/compilation, but until then it’s all for you my blog readers!

All the best.

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you

xoxo

Tosin

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WHO AM I TAG!

IMG_4354 copyHello! I was tagged by three lovely ladies on youtube to do this tag, Ify Yvonne, Esther150 & AmyLozy. I already put it on youtube twodays ago, but thought to share it with you all here 🙂

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Questions Answered:

1. what would you do if the guy you liked proposed, but you remembered that his mum had a little crazy in her and his dad seemed to always flirt with girls your age?
2. If you had to change the name of your channel what Name would you pick?
3. What is the strangest thing you believed as a child?
4. Are you high maintenance? Explain.
5. What’s a strange occurrence you’ve experienced but have never (or rarely) shared with anyone?
6. What’s something that amazes you?
7. How has your birth order/characteristics of siblings affected you?
8. Have you ever changed clothes in a vehicle?
9. Are there any household chores you secretly enjoy? Which ones — and why?
10. What’s in your fridge, right this moment?
11. Would you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?
12. Do you ever hunt for answers or omens in dreams?
13. What was your very first JOB?
14. If you were heading out on a ROAD TRIP right this minute, what would you pack?
15. Do you have any irrational fears?
16. What’s in your pocket (or purse, or man-purse) right now?

Ify’s channel

https://www.youtube.com/user/naijagirl88
Amy’s Channel
https://www.youtube.com/user/AmyLozy
Esther’s Channel
https://www.youtube.com/user/esther150

Hope you’re doing great!

speak soon!

xx

Tosin

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NATURAL HAIR UPDATE: 2YEARS 1MONTH!

IMG_3797 copyHello people,

Hope you’re doing great, I just realised that I’m 2 years, a month and a week natural today, and an update is only right. I get a lot of questions about my hair, its care and my regimen. In the past, I have tried to make videos, write posts and answer questions via my social media accounts, But I guess when it comes to hair, we enthusiasts always want to know more. Hence this post.

MY NATURAL HAIR TIME LINE (2months post Big chop till date-2years Natural)

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I would try to divide this post into sections and answer all questions I have gotten over time. All points/answers are solely what has worked for me, I am not an expert, take all with discretion.

1. WHY NATURAL?: I have cut my hair thrice before this, just for style purposes i.e the ‘Anita baker’ kind of hair cut, but it never lasts. The back grew back and I to re-trim it almost every 2-3 months. On the last occasion, I just decided to take it all off. My friend Biola was actually the one who ‘enticed’ me with the natural hair movement. I first wanted to keep it short, i.e like month 2 as seen above, but when it started growing out, I quite

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O.O.T.D : SUNNY NOVEMBER

DSC_0282 copyHello!

It’s friday! I love the way this year is running fast, I’m anticipating 2015 already, are you?…….Today’s weather was amazing, The sun came out to play and I followed suit. The look I have on is a casual Friday look.


If you follow my blog, you’d know I’m not a fan of jeans, but today I have no reservations towards them. I got this pair from a boutique in Nigeria and they still fit perfectly! With all the junk I eat I wonder why I’m not yet Obese.…I styled My hair in top bun and wore minimal jewelery.

Bag: JustFAB Buy Here | Mules: Buy Here| Accessories, Jean & Jumper: Easily substituted.DSC_0293

DSC_0288 DSC_0299 DSC_0285 DSC_0289 DSC_0291Have an awesome weekend, Stay happy!

xoxo

Tosin

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

All personal images/Pictorials and videos are owned by Africanismcosmopolitan.com (Water marked/not……Except otherwise stated) and they may NOT be used in any way without prior consent of the author, Legal actions would be taken.

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TOSIN COOKS: NIGERIAN EFO-RIRO

Hello guys,

So I’ve been craving a lot lately, e.g Peppered snail, Efo-riro, Plantain porridge e.t.c but this week I’d be satisfying them day by day…Tonight I cooked Efo-riro and filmed the process for you awesome people! 3minutes short, please watch, enjoy and share.

Main Ingredients: Vegetable of choice, Palm oil, “Kpanla”, Chicken, stockfish, crayfish, dry fish, peppers, Shrimps, Seasoning(Curry, Thyme, stock cubes, salt, pepper).

KINDLY WATCH IN HD FOR PREMIUM QUALITY( Choose 1080HD on the settings tab at the base of the Video)

[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pCm9fzLqmyM&w=640&h=360%5D

P.s. Hope you’re noticing my consistency in blogging……… ^.^ things I do to keep you entertained lol)

xoxo

Tosin

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

All personal images/Pictorials and videos are owned by Africanismcosmopolitan.com (Water marked/not……Except otherwise stated) and they may NOT be used in any way without prior consent of the author, Legal actions would be taken.

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