UNFADING BEAUTY (1)

IMG_0416 copyHello people!

TGIF! Hope your week went great and you’re pumped about the weekend like I am. Today I’m introducing a series into in the blog titled 20 Lessons of my 20’s, I’m still in my twenties hence ‘of’ as opposed to ‘from‘.

This segment talks about various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman. I chose today’s topic Unfading beauty: beyond the reflection as the Number 1 LESSON simply because this was the first lesson I learnt in the first few years as an adult. Now I sometimes wonder if this is because I’m female or because God knew I needed to reck that part of me. I’ve once shared my journey on beauty and vanity on the blog Here, but today I’d just discuss a few things I’ve learnt on beauty.

All ‘lessons’ are solely a result of my personal experiences, but I do hope they are valuable and worth sharing to someone else. Do have an open mind whilst reading….

1. APPEARANCE MATTERS: I would not be cliché and say “only inner beauty matters”, Although this is very true in God’s eyes -1 Samuel 16:7, on earth the case is not the same. You may be thinking “shouldn’t only the thoughts of God matter”, you are also more than right. However the bible asked us to apply wisdom. We as humans have been placed on earth for a purpose and it’s God’s intention for us to live at the maximum potential, walking with utmost dominion. I’ve learnt that it’s only wise to look good. It sounds simple, but think about it using this analogy. Imagine God has destined you to be a great preacher, but because you feel that’s all that matters you decide not to shower or wear nice clothes, would that aid/hinder your mission? (you be the judge). Look around the world most great and impactful men/women of God make a conscious effort to dress well. This is simply because they understand the human mind, not everyone you come in contact with has the mind of christ. Its only normal that anyone would assess you based on how you present yourself. Moreover, I’ve also learnt that looking good is a good thing, don’t be apologetic for it.

2. YOUR PHYSICAL BEAUTY IS INCOMPARABLE: It’s funny how everyone is familiar with the terms “finest girl, “most beautiful” and other comparative titles in that context. But in these years, I’ve asked my self, should beauty really be compared? My understanding of physical beauty is something you have no control over, your cheek bones, eyes, lips, legs …were all formed as a result of genes and cells, all orchestrated by God- unarguably ‘the all knowing God’. So in retrospect, what exactly validates one person to be more beautiful than another as God is a just God, and we are all made in his likeness. However I do not disagree with some being physically more attractive/appealing than others although I truly believe it doesn’t make the other any less-beautiful. I’ve also come to learn that you can and should only be the most beautiful version of you. I decided to stop comparing my self with the next girl or celebrity(consciously or unconsciously). You shouldn’t feel the need to be/look better than others to validate your beauty, your God-given beauty.

3. BEAUTY DOES FADE: Probably an over-flogged phrase but it’s the utmost truth. Beauty is vain so certainly it would be of less value over time. Notice I didn’t say less beautiful, I mean less-appraised. There are people who are strikingly gorgeous from infancy to senior years, but that factor becomes less apparent over time with those who they share their lives with. This is simply because physical beauty only feeds the eyes, your character, personality and actions feeds the mind. We can all agree that the mind is more powerful than sight. This is why you can imagine things that trigger emotions even without its physical presence.

There’s also a saying that goes thus “people rarely forget how you made them feel”. Moments are often treasured because they are made up of thoughts, experience, feelings and emotions all triggered by actions Not as a result of the appearance of the actor. This realisation has taught me to invest in my being: not just looking my best but doing and being my best. Daily above all vain pursuits I strive to improve temperaments, attitudes, thresholds, speech and thoughts.

4. HEALTH IS WEALTH: I particularly was most guilty of this, I could be very nonchalant with my health. I try to eat right and a little exercise here and there but nothing grand. I consider our twenties as  basically the 1st lap of ageing. In a relay race they often put the best runners at the 1st and last lap, why? because they understand the importance of starting off well. Taking your health with utmost importance now is a gift you must give yourself. You need to be strong and full of vigor. This spans from running checkups, exercise, a healthy diet, and being product cautious. Us women in particular are guilty the latter(product cautious), we use anything that we are told works, You don’t need an immediate allergic reaction to a cream, oil or pill before you find out what it’s made of. Some products have delayed response and may take years of continuous use before showing its negative outcomes. You are what you eat, and when the inside is great the outside with glow.

5. PEOPLE VALUE WHAT YOU VALUE: This is a lesson that spans beyond beauty, but is relevant to this topic so I thought to also include. Have you noticed that if someone bashes/praises a particular item/feature/relation of theirs, it somewhat shapes the way to look at that item?  If you always complain or speak ill about a habit/relation/feature of yours, don’t be upset when people begin to tease or mock you with it.  It’s paramount to have a healthy self-esteem and see yourself has God’s best creation. He felt this is the best form for you to be born, in his likeness. It’s best to ignore anything that makes you feel less special, because you are indeed special, born for a purpose which you must fulfil. The moment you begin to value yourself with God’s standards coupled with humility everything will begin to change.

That’s all for today, 19 more to go. I hope to one day publish these writings into a book/compilation, but until then it’s all for you my blog readers!

Have a fruitful weekend ahead!

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xoxo

Tosin

SOME NEW OILS I’M USING!

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I always like to incorporate new oils or products into my overall health care regimen, and I just added four new oils to my skin and hair regimen. Thought to share with you!

1. PEPPERMINT OIL : peppermint is a cross between watermint and spearmint and is native to Europe. Historically, the herb has been known for its medicinal uses. This oil is great for hair care as it gives a cooling effect to the scalp. It helps in removing dandruff and lice. Peppermint oil has antiseptic, regenerative, and stimulating effects which improves blood circulation to scalp areas triggering/promoting  hair growth. It  also can relieve the scalp of irritation and dry skin. Based on my research, I find that it allows hair have a  shiny, fresh look.  Peppermint oil can be found in many hair products and alternative solutions for baldness, dandruff, and other hair-related conditions.  I bought mine from my local beauty store for about £11.

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2. BIO-OIL: The almighty scar/stretchmark/marks remover; so they say…..Well I bought the 125ML bottle a while back and I’ve been using it daily for about 15 days. I haven’t noticed any change except the breakouts on my cheeks(sighs), which I have decided to attribute to it. I haven’t changed anything in my skin routine besides using a pearl drop amount of bio oil on my face and legs daily. I would assume my skin is just adjusting to the change hence the tiny breakouts so I would continue use till next month. However Bio‑Oil is a specialist skin care oil that claims to improve the appearance of scars, stretch marks and uneven skin tone. It says it’s also effective for ageing and dehydrated skin. I’ve decided to use it for 90 days as that is the stipulated time to notice visible change/difference. Hopefully my skin likes it and we are all happy…bio-oil-125ml

3. PURE ORGANIC COCONUT OIL: Don’t you hate all those coconut oils sold in beauty stores that actually doesn’t smell like coconut…I’ve experienced that 3ce now. But finally I got my hands on some pure coconut oil all the way from Belize, a country in the carribeans. I have a friend from there-whose dad was coming into the country. I asked him for some and he brought me a huge bottle of pure coconut oil. I’ve been using it for 3 weeks and oh my! the difference is clear! it absorbs into the skin well, isn’t greasy and just conditions my hair well which is awesome as we’re getting into the colder months. coconut-oil1-1

 

4. EXTRA VIRGIN OLIVE OIL: It’s funny how throughout my natural hair journey, I really never implemented olive oil into my daily regimen, I’ve always known its benefits (It contains vitamins and nutrients that help make hair strands thicker, which gives the appearance of a fuller head of hair. Scalp treatments with the oil can be used to remove sebum buildup, which is sometimes responsible for slowed hair growth. It also conditions the hair and gives it a good sheen with consistent use) but I just never used it appropriately. Now I use it 2-3times a week to oil my scalp and also deep condition when necessary. I also learnt something called an oil rinse which is when you wash your hair with just oil and rinse out with cold water. Tried it and my hair loved it. article-2689405-1F921A0D00000578-953_306x758

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So! what new oils have you been using? do let me know. I’m also curious about anyone who has used Bio-oil, please tell me your experience so I can compare my overall experience, I’d really appreciate your response.

Hope your week is going great, Have a great day ahead!

P.s. Don’t Forget to catch me tonight on Ebony Life TV on the ‘BLOG IT’ segment! Channel 165 DSTV.

Time 5:30pm, re-run at 8:30pm, 11:30pm and 11:30am the next day!

xoxo

Tosin

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FIRST DATE TAG!

Hello all!

I’ve been tagged by Esther150 and beautyandbrushes on youtube to do the “First date tag” which is quite an interesting one, please do enjoy!

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xoxo

Tosin

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UPDATED: 6 LIPSTICKS FOR DARK SKIN

IMG_6905-1Hello Ladies!

I’ve done a similar post to this in the past, but here’s an updated version. These are 6 tested and trusted lipsticks for darker skinned ladies. A lot of women of colour still complain about “shades/colours not suiting them” but I beg to differ. I love lipsticks, I wear them everyday I wear makeup (Yes I do). I don’t like lip gloss and I just wouldn’t wear it alone, i.e without a lipstick/Lipstain base.  These Lipsticks are colours I wear myself, so fear not lol.

1. Sleek Papaya punch: This lipstick is coral-orange, it’s really rich and I love the way it applies smoothly. It also serves as a good gradient when applied in the middle of a purple lipstick.

2. MAC Ruby Woo: Any makeup lover knows the wonders of a red lipstick. It’s a deep yet vibrant red, although a little drying but it’s nothing lip balm can’t solve. Apply prior to application.

3. Sleek Mystic : I love purple lipstick and after MAC heroine, this comes next. It’s not a dupe for heroine but it serves as a good purple lipstick. Velvety and smooth too.

4. MAC Fixed on drama: Amazing colour! it’s like cocoa, pink and burgundy had a baby. Very pigmented and looks great on both dark and fair skin.

5. MAC Flat out fabulous: My favorite lipstick in the world. End of discussion

6. Kate Rimmel nude : This lipstick leans more to brown than a pink nude. I like it on days when I’m wearing a natural look. A little lip-liner and gloss over it and you’re good to go.

Hope this helps you when next you’re in the makeup aisle, but remember!  no matter how great a product is, application is what matters.

All lipsticks mentioned in this post are my personal favourites, Do let me know yours! I’d  really love to know … I love to mix colours to create a gradient, ombre or even a new colour.

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xoxo

Tosin

SPOKEN WORD: 206 BONES BY WONU ALESE

Hello,

Here’s an amazing piece by my talented friend Wonu Alese, who is a rising radio personality here in the U.K. This is a beautiful piece about Love, humanity and purpose. Listen and be blessed. Transcript below….

“We different, colour, hair, height, structure, sense of style, perception about life , religion, social stratas, able, disabled, straight, gay,  taste buds, but We all got one thing in common 206 BONES.
It is funny and weird how we all differ but we are all the same in the end. We all turn to dust and decay at some point. Continue reading

INVITE GIVEAWAY WINNERS! NACK POP UP SHOP & RUNWAY

26THOCTHello!

Here are the winners to the N.A.C.K Pop-up shop and runway event Invites!!

Mofifolu
Oma
Mirabel
Sylph Diarist
Hawau

Congratulations! Kindly send your Full names, email and mobile number to africanismcosmopolitan@gmail.com by Friday Latest….

You will be contacted by a N.A.C.K Rep, and your invites would be sent out to you! Congrats again, and do have fun at the event! Take pictures, meet people, shop and feel free to tag me on all social media platforms!

@LLynn_J (Twitter)

@Lynnjaphet (Instagram)

XOXO

Tosin!

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GET MY LOOK: LALALE FRIDAY

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Hi there,

These are the details of the outfit from yesterday, I have also attached where to buy all items. Please feel free to request looks, ask questions, drop comments, or give post ideas …I appreciate your feedback.

JUMPSUIT: BUY HERE

SANDALS (Exact style sold out): BUT BUY SIMILAR HERE

CLUTCH: BUY HERE OR HERE  HERE

All accessories are easily substituted…..

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XOXO

Tosin

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