Sure your day is going well,  It’s past 5’0clock so I can pose and post…..

it’s also about to rain, can you tell from the images below? I tried not to look tired ^.^

I have on my wiggie today from RaefranHair because I rushed out of the house this morning (It takes effort to pack my natural hair, wigs are ever efficient).

Hope you’re doing great and prepping for the weekend….Don’t forget to vote for us to win HERE! (number 18|Africanismcosmopolitan)

Dress: BeFree Street || Brooch: H & M|| BAG: Therapy|| Shoes: TopShop

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Here’s an outfit post from today. I think I’m going to buy a small umbrella that I can put in my purse, the sun in Lagos is scorching, I’ve reduced my makeup drastically to avoid sweating, all I need now is a good sunscreen! please recommend a good one I can buy… thank you ^.^.

Also I’ve gone back to my bun. I would soon return to weave but I needed a breather……….Been a while I did a natural hair post/update, would do one soon..

This is one of my favorite dresses, I wear it every time there’s no time to scatter my closet for what to wear……

My weekend round-up is below the cut……



How’s your day going? mine is a bit busy but good so far. Sorry I missed out on the weekend roundup, I had a chilled weekend. Church and mostly sleep……..Although I went to Yaba market with my friend and it wasn’t a pleasant experience. The rowdiness and the shop owners pulling us to check out their stalls was just not nice. Never again! lol

On sunday I went to church with Obum, had some froyo from sweet kiwi(It’s safe to say I’m a very loyal customer) then we went over to my friend Jennifer’s store. She’s a fashion designer, Obum and I wanted her to make some shift dresses for us. I would show you them when its made.

Those who follow me on Instagram may have seen my sunday posts, but here’s an update for those who don’t use Instagram…

Happy Sunday 🎊☺️

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We are now staff at @sweetkiwiyogurt 🙈🙊#sundaynoon

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And that’s all!

Have a great week ahead.

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So I got invited to a Nigerian TV station, Royal Roots TV to discuss natural hair and blogging in general. I was very honored when I got the invitation, This is my second TV feature but my first live show. I was on the set with two lovely hosts, Derin and Fome.

During the show, I was asked questions about my blog, the health aspect of hair, healthy hair habits, product knowledge and natural oils. Also questions on protective styling and length retention were asked by callers. It was a very lovely experience with a nice yet professional production team. Surprisingly lots of men called into the show, with many loving the natural hair movements except one male caller, who specifically felt the idea was absurd, and that natural hair appeared untidy lol. We resolved to ‘one man’s gold is another’s junk”.

I loved being on set and would welcome more features gladly, thank God for growth and a wider reach. I’ve inserted a clip below from my Instagram feed, for you to watch (15secs)



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After the show I went over to my friend Fedara’s house to sleep over as the studio was located on the mainland . The next day we went to have lunch at ‘The place’ in Lekki. I had some super nice Yam, Plantain and Asun(stir-fry goat meat) while Fedara had Plantain, Efo-riro with Asun. Everything we ordered costs N3,100, I personally don’t take juices or drinks with meals, I’d rather just have water with food, I’m trying to stay fit so anyone who has lunch with me will be convinced to have water too lol.

That’s the beautiful fedara below, shes also a naturalista!



So that’s how my yesterday and today went!

How you doing?? Sure all is well………

keep me in your prayers as I keep you in mine ^.^

Have a productive week ahead…..

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Written by: Wunmi Kayode ACA

Hello Good People!

Let me start by appreciating you for being a committed audience to this blog also embracing the growth that comes with it, one of which is this platform of ‘Helping Others To Excel in Academics’. I appreciate all your constructive comments towards the “academics with wunmi segment” and all suggestions so far, however it would be more awesome if you also dropped a comment in the box below. Further more you can also suggest areas you would further like me to discuss in the research segment.

To the ‘topic’ of the day, in this post I will be considering the common research mistakes we make as researchers.

‘Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war’- Donald Trump.

So stop hating on yourself for not getting it right in the past.

  1. DATA MANIPULATION: I was once a victim here, ‘adjusting’ your data and result to make it look like what you want or think it should be. It’s data remember not information, it’s still in its raw form, it’s to be used just the way it is and whatever result gotten after processing is the true representation of data. In research, there’s no right or wrong answer, the answer is not to be predetermined. The reason you’re ‘researching’ is because you don’t know the answer, if the answer is known beforehand then it’s not research. Don’t be ‘afraid’ to present your true result, just explain whatever result you’ve got critically and advisably support with existing literature.
  2. HIRING SOMEONE TO DO IT FOR YOU INSTEAD OF DIY: A lot of students are quite familiar with this. One of the major things you need to excel in research is to engage ‘smart-work’. ‘Smart work’ not only applies to research but all academic endeavours. This is what these ‘research helpers’ know. It’s not their field but yet they present you with a ‘good’ project at the end of the day. Note that not doing your academic research work yourself makes you incapable of defending the result thus not suitable for maximizing the benefits that is embedded in research.
  3. PLAGIARISM (PUBLISHED OR CO-STUDENTS WORKS): Plagiarism is copying someone’s work or idea without acknowledgement and presenting it as your work/idea. Plagiarism comes with negative consequences more often than not. The thought that some past researchers are better than us is not totally true. These past researchers have documented their ideas and opinions, dare to document your own ideas too. Until you make those ideas plain in writing, they may seem ‘lame’ in the head. To be honest we all have excellence in us, all we need do is to release it. Someone once said how to overcome fear is to do that thing you fear.
  4. LACK OF ORIGINALITY: It’s not that students don’t actually have the ideas, but quite a lot are not optimistic with their ideas nor are they willing to dare to be different. More often, in the process of trying to refine original ideas to soothe the trend or your supervisor, you lose the originality of the work as a whole. What most students don’t know is, supervisors actually want you to you sell your ideas to them, that is, make them see through your ‘lenses’. It’s no crime for your work to have its limitations, it’s part of the originality.
  5. POOR EXPRESSION: Grammatical blunders, inability to express oneself without ambiguity or bias to existing literature. Poor expression could also imply ‘moving in circles about your opinion’ rather than ‘hitting the nail on the head’. What this does is to erode the originality of your idea and aim of study. Don’t be apologetic about your opinion. I remember this was an area I had to consciously work on while writing my masters’ thesis. I was trying to hide ‘behind a finger’ in expressing my opinion. A colleague of mine went through my work and observed this, the review was indeed helpful.


  1. Engage research (academic endeavour) with the right mind-set, this eases out a lot of mental stress. Check the post for mind-set HERE.
  2. Learn to express yourself and opinion in your own words without ambiguity.
  3. Write down your ideas, writing makes things plain and easy to relate with. Thinking is good, writing your thoughts is better!
  4. Develop your own idea. Be Original with your thoughts.
  5. Acknowledge any other person’s idea used in your work.
  6. Give trusted and intelligent individuals your work to review.
  7. Be honest with your data results and presentation.
  8. Get more familiar with academic literatures, this helps in critical reasoning and gets you more acquainted with the style of academic writing.
  9. Check out references acknowledged in selected materials you’ve chosen to read, this gives better understanding of the subject matter.
  10. Be sure about the data you require for your study, getting your data right gives you confidence in your result.

Till I Come your way again,

Let’s stay Winning,
Wunmi Kayode

Please leave your comments, suggestions, or questions in the comment box below or mail me at wunmi.kayode@gmail.com

The Education segment of the blog is one where you can find resources as a student/prospective one to help you succeed academically. Periodic posts would be published ranging from advice to questions and resources, all of which readily available to help you. I wish you all the best in your academic endeavours- Tosin Alabi( editor)


IMG_3700 copyHello!
How did your week go, you all know how I love weekends, always something to do or just sleep like I do sometimes. This weekend for me was a busy one. On friday I went home straight from the office and just slept like a baby, while on saturday I went to Lagos Island market with my friends Seun and Dewunmi.

Dewunmi blogs at koolstorys.com do check her out, her stories are awesome.

Here’s what I wore on friday…

Shoes: River Island|Purse: HOF|Jeans: newlook

Shoes: River Island|Purse: HOF|Jeans: newlook

At the market, I wanted to get some fabrics and a new clothing rack for my room. The one I had collapsed the other day and I just couldn’t find another. Here’s a picture of how my old one looked like.

I found the fabrics at Ereko street Idumota, the guys that attended to us were very nice and courteous. I got 6 fabrics in total. 3 Silks and 3 Chiffons. I intend to make shift dresses and Iro & buba out of them….pardon how I look below, Seun is a horrid photographer lol. I wore an Ankara bubu(free maxi dress) and clutched my bag tight for security reasons, loitering hoodlums don’t play…..
It’s been three years since I visited Lagos market, but I could still find my way around. During our sojourn, my slippers cut, so I had to sit in a store whilst I get it fixed or buy a new one. A really nice store owner let me sit in her store and she looked for a cobbler for me. When she didn’t find one she offered me an extra pair of slippers in her store, which I was quite surprised by her extra kind gesture. I took them, went to buy a new pair and returned hers. Trust me, there are still nice people in this world. I didn’t even buy anything from her……such a lovely lady!

Moving on, I bought so much street food on my way round the market. From Boli(Roasted plantain) to Agbalumo/odara (White star fruit) to Smoked fish (Eja osan). I was just eating anyhow, luckily no food poisoning a day after…. I also got Fan Yogurt, My favorite!

The shopping experience, street food and scorching sun was fun lol .

p.s never wear makeup(not even powder like I did) to huge markets, Lesson learnt!

Fast forward to Sunday, I went to church with my lovely friend Obum, the sermon was awesome! The preacher talked about releasing all to God and just basking in his grace and mercy by faith. i.e releasing your fears, expectations, qualifications, worries e.t.c…….Since we are a product of grace we should walk in it boldly.

After church we changed into our slippers and went to Sweet kiwi in lekki as foodies ^.^. I think since I got back I’ve been there practically every weekend. My favorite mix is Kiwi and pineapple topped with granola and grapes, Yum!  Also the store attendant asked if I wanted a loyalty card, and as a regular I’m entitled to 10% off henceforth ^.^ I said Yes with joy and collected it! *dancing*!!

From sweet kiwi I went to shoprite to look for the rack as I didn’t find any yesterday at the market, I found one at shoprite but wasn’t the one I was looking for so I just went to window shop instead. I ended up at the DAVIVA Store there, and bought this beautiful Ankara fabric, It was love at first sight. Yellow on dark skin is absolutely beautiful, can’t wait to sew this into a dress.

This weekend was eventful, Obum even lost her phone today, but thankfully someone found it, and hopefully we’d pick it up tomorrow evening.

This year has been a fantastic year so far, a few downs but God has been so faithful in all areas. One of my goals this year was to live a very full life, from the littlest of things to the biggest moments, I promised myself to live all cheerfully and in gratitude. So cheers to more outstanding moments this year.

Oh yes I have some good news for you all, but would share later this week ^.^

Before I leave to get some good dinner, you all know I develop SME’s for a living right? Incase you didn’t know, check me out HERE. This weekend I worked on a new client called RevampCloset Ng. They are a wardrobe design, closet management and layout company. So if you struggle with keeping a tidy and functional closet like me, do check them out HERE.

Logo design and branding by yours truly tosinalabi.com for RevampclosetNg

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Hope your weekend was fantastic!

Have an amazing  week ahead.

Incase you missed what I did last weekend, Read HERE , All my wakabouts are under the “OUTINGS” tab of the blog ^.^.

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Hello there!

Welcome to another edition of ’20 Lessons of my 20’s ( A segment that discusses various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman). Thank you always taking time to read these posts, I’m encouraged by your kind comments and shares! incase you missed the last edition, Read HERE. Today’s topic is “Emotional Intelligence” which for some reason I’ve been procrastinating, but the events of this week has prompted me to get this out there. so do read, share and enjoy.

As usual, All ‘lessons’ are solely a result of my personal experiences, but I do hope they are valuable and worth sharing to someone else. Do have an open mind whilst reading….

I personally feel Nigerians have quite an aggressive nature, not all but a large population. Even in the most simple scenarios like queues, traffic, or just gatherings, the forceful and imposing behavior just shows. We often fail to acknowledge the feelings of others and majorly have the “things must go my way” mentality.  When whereas we should sometimes observe, evaluate, understand and adjust.
I did a brief survey and realised that 4 out of 5 people do not know what Emotional intelligence(E.I) is. I first heard this phrase a while back and due to my inquisitive nature I went ahead to do research on it.
So simply put, E.I is “effectively managing your emotions and that of others” . Meaning you are well aware of the way you feel towards things/people and considerate of how others feel. Hence, your actions and decisions follow suit.

“Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer defined emotional intelligence as, “the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions” (1990)

That is, you’re less aggressive, imposing, overbearing, overly sensitive and self-seeking.

Emotional intelligence allows you to manage people and also horn your leadership skills. It also gives you mental balance. You don’t get upset easily , you create room for people’s excesses, you have more control over your emotions and a more peaceful outlook to life.

There are many components to Emotional intelligence, like respect for the choices of Others, showing compassion, sense of humour when required, originality, applying intuition and creative reasoning. In essence, E.I promotes self-regulation i.e. the ability to control and redirect disruptive impulses and moods. This allows us to suspend judgement, and think before any action.

Further more, Emotional intelligence is largely linked with empathy, allowing you to treat and relate with people according to their emotional reactions. For example, my mum is quite sentimental, so being logical with her would never work. it would only get me infuriated and impatient. So now I’m learning to pad my opinions to her, especially when I feel strongly about an issue. Being abrupt and blunt may seem imposing and overbearing to her, so I need to soften my pitch and choice of words to attain a favorable response. Whereas I on the other hand despise patronage, I’d rather you say it as it is no matter how unpleasant. So any one relating with me needs to understand that to get desired results.

One thing Emotional intelligence also teaches you is that not everyone can be emotionally intelligent, but as I tweeted the other day, this is when the fruits of the spirit comes in. “Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and my personal favourite “self-Control”.

I’d like to consider the faith-based perspective of Emotional intelligence as basically having the fruits of the spirit. Having this makes you more pleasant, understanding, and more relatable, which is when you can foster better and positive relationships with people.

There are several articles and teachings on E.I and it would be great if we read up on it to develop our reasoning quotient, Here’s a fantastic one I found for leaders: E.I FOR LEADERS

Do have a great day ahead!

16 Lessons to go. I hope to one day publish these writings into a book/compilation, but until then it’s all for you my blog readers!

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I received this hair I’ve been rocking from RaeFranHair_Uk, It was delivered to Lagos in 6days. It came via FEDEX. The package contained a 12″ closure, and 16, 18 and 20″ bundles of virgin kinky hair. The video below explains all hair and styling details, do watch for more information.

Kindly watch in HD for premium quality

This hair is specially made for naturalistas and its a good blend with 4c hair. It’s shoulder length because of it’s tight curls, but it’s stretched length is accurate.

I fixed it on a cap and wear it as a wig. Personally I feel curly hair is better on a cap for maintenance. Also I wash it with my herbal essence Hello hydration conditioner and apply Cantu Shea butter leave in conditioner afterwards.

Price: £170 for all bundles. However shipping is free if it’s a referral from this blog. Quote “TosinLynn” in your order mail.

Contact. I.G @raefranhair_uk

Mail: raefranHairuk@gmail.com

And that’s all!

Hope I answered all your questions.





Hope your day is going well, Here’s an outfit post from today.

Shirt: Forever 21| Jeans: Milien| Bag: Mischa Barton| Shoes: Next| Earrings: H&M| Glasses: Newlook

Photo credit: Ann Okpapi

Have a great day ahead…



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Screen Shot 2015-03-02 at 17.31.45Hello,

Since I started wearing makeup I’ve used about 5 brands in the powder department,  started with Marykay then Ailin, Iman, Flori Roberts, M.A.C and now Milani.

I love my M.A.C products. I feel they are worth the hype and price point, however they may not be suitable for all weather conditions. I normally use the M.A.C mineralise skin finish. I love the glow it gives my face and how long it lasts, but since I got to Nigeria it hasn’t been my best friend.

Due to the heat, my face gets soiled quickly then the glow/bronze finish in the MSF powder makes me appear oily. I didn’t like the appearance.

My cousin Lanre introduced me to Milani powder late last year but I didn’t buy into the hype, so I chose not to get it. Two weeks ago, I went to my aunt’s studio and she was using Milani powder on a model, I loved the finish so I decided to get one for myself.

I bought the Milani mineral compact powder (shade 110 deep) from my local Beauty supply store (BBHbeauty supply, Shop E233, Ikota Shopping complex V.G.C Ajah). I got it for about N2,400. I tried it on and loved it even more. It’s natural, light weight and doesn’t overly cake my face. Although it’s more yellow toned than red, it works just fine on my skin. I use a Revlon photoready foundation and the Milani powder works well with it for everyday use.

On days where I have an event or want to look extra made-up I may reach for my M.A.C. But so far I love this powder. It covers well and the wearability is just perfect. 4-5hours then you may need to touch up depending on your skin type.

I rate this product 8/10 simply because they don’t have a wide spectrum in shades. Just 3 shades: Medium, warm and deep. Hence, people with deeper skin tones may struggle with choosing a shade from this particular line. Their pressed powder has a wider color range.

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All three types of powder in the Milani powder range.

Do let me know if you use Milani or have used it in the past…….I’d like to know if my sentiment is just initial excitement lol…

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