3. KNOW THYSELF

IMG_3415Hello there!

It’s been a while on ’20 Lessons of my 20’s ( A segment that discusses various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman). Thank you for the comments, shares and screenshots from the last topic! I’m truly grateful it resonates with you. But incase you missed it, Read HERE. Today’s topic is one that is almost the bedrock of anyone on a self-development journey.

“Know thyself” connotes; Being in tune with you, self acceptance, personal discovery and understanding how you function”.

As usual, All ‘lessons’ are solely a result of my personal experiences, but I do hope they are valuable and worth sharing to someone else. Do have an open mind whilst reading….

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Growing up I had the ‘I too know” Syndrome, which is one that I assumed I knew everything about myself or situations, I felt I was self-sufficient even though I was probably the least self-aware person at that time. I remember the first time I heard the quote “Know thyself”, which was originally coined by Plato & Socrates… The quote made sense to me, but I had no in-depth understanding.

I just assumed “Duhh! If I don’t know myself who will.

Now in retrospect, think about it…….If you don’t know yourself, who will understand you? who will be able to cater to your true emotional needs, how will you identify the people who improve you, if you don’t even know what your entity needs.

I often say there’s no specific period for self-development, everyday of your life should have that goal…“Today, I want to do and be better’. The human body and mind has been designed to be every changing. In biology, the moment something stops changing/growing its considered dead. I feel this the same with humans, we cannot afford to ‘Hibernate’ while alive.

I did a post in the past on the importance of self-reflection (Read HERE) and I stated out the benefits, so I would not bore you with a repeat. Self reflection is simply looking inward. Constantly doing a self assessment/checkup. It may sound obvious, but you’d realise that many do not really ‘self-reflect’.

The first Key to knowing yourself is to observe. To observe means to “Notice or perceive (something) and register it as being significant“———-Keyword ‘significant‘.

Now ask yourself, those things, feelings or actions you notice about yourself (if you do ‘notice’), How important do you acknowledge it? Many of us have a clear idea of our personas, but we do so little about it. Forgetting that who we are and what we do controls what we get.

Let me put it this way——Imagine you knew your strengths, weaknesses, likes, dislikes, emotion sensory triggers and thresholds, wouldn’t it be easier to excel, set boundaries, succeed at careers, remain joyful, have great friends and even get upset a little less.

People often say you have no control over how people choose to see you, listen or respond to you….. To an extent that’s true, but I feel you have control over your life, how you feel, perceptions and relationships with those who matter to you.

Now you may say ‘Tosin, I know myself’……..here’s what I say, I don’t want you to ‘just’ know yourself, I want you to know, understand, accept, develop and apply ‘your-self truth’ to your life……

Your life is your solitude(alone-ness), your Job, your family, your relationships, your faith, your environment and every situation you find/place yourself in.

KNOWING YOURSELF IS A LIFE JOURNEY because feelings, wants, needs, and opinions change. But amidst all, you should always think. Bishop Oyedepo says a “thinking man is a ruler, he rules his world. A non-thinking man is a slave to his world”.

I agree. Thinking is a required mental activity in knowing yourself. it aids acknowledgement of growth areas, reflections, idea generation and future projections.

Personally, I feel at this stage in my life, I have a better idea of who I am, I know what I like, I also know how I function.

I can pick friends who I genuinely enjoy and appreciate, I can say No to what makes me sad, I can make decisions without being sentimental, I am more objective in my reasoning, I can ignore things that may trigger a negative emotion, I can use words that perfectly express how I truly feel. I no longer invest on temporary joys that leave me bitter after. I know what I want from life and I can work around my personality and strengths to achieve it. I also acknowledge that whatever I think I can do right now, there’s always a better/innovative way to it, because there’s always room for growth/improvement.

All the above is/was only possible through observing my behavioral patterns, emotions, actions-outcomes and perceptions of me from the outside world. My keys to a better understanding of ‘self’ is straightforward: REFLECT, OBSERVE & ASSESS, LET IT SINK, DEVELOP & IMPLEMENT.

” 2 Corinthians 13:5 Don’t drift along taking everything for granted. Give yourselves regular checkups. You need firsthand evidence, not mere hearsay, that Jesus Christ is in you. Test it out. If you fail the test, do something about it.”

Doing this, you’d be able to overcome many fears, stay on your lane, make better decisions, avoid negativity and over all live a happier life.

With all that’s been said…I want you to know I’m saying all these from a standpoint of humility, I do not want to come off as self-absorbed, Rather I want you to see this from the perspective of someone who once struggled but didn’t need to….if only she knew herself better.

furthermore, There is no such thing as perfection, What seems like perfection is only people who maximize their strengths and suppress their weaknesses”—one of my favourite quotes.


In conclusion, Man is purely a work of the maker, and who can know the clay better than the potter…..no one. A relationship with God brings everything to light, God delights in the one that seek and please him, he’s even more that ready to aid the self discovery process. See what King David said in psalms 139:23

       “Investigate my life, O God,
    find out everything about me;
Cross-examine and test me,
    get a clear picture of what I’m about;
See for yourself whether I’ve done anything wrong—
    then guide me on the road to eternal life”

David was a great man, a man after God’s heart.

I pray that God reveals himself to us all, be our present help in our time of need and we all become a living manifestation of our God ordained purpose on earth.

Have a lovely weekend ahead!

17 Lessons to go. I hope to one day publish these writings into a book/compilation, but until then it’s all for you my blog readers!

All the best.

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you

xoxo

Tosin

HAIR REVIEW: GLAMAROZ HAIR

IMG_9615Hello!

This is just a simple review of the hair I’ve been wearing lately! watch the video below to see movement, texture and more information!

The company website is still ongoing (http://glamarozhair.com/) but you can follow them on instagram @sirokkoBeauty to see client testimonials/Hair types .

PACKAGING: It was sent to me in clear ziplock bags, three bundles of Russian curls, IMG_8918
DELIVERY: I received it in 5days after I was contacted. They deliver worldwide in 5-10days.

SMELL: It just smelled like hair, although I haven’t washed it since I got it, the hair doesn’t have any foul smell/scent.

INSTALLATION: I fixed it on a Spandex wig cap for durability as usual. I cut the wefts while fixing as I “glued instead of sewing”, I used up almost all three bundles. Also I noticed minimal shedding while brushing. I used the closure from RaefranHair to compliment the bundles.

HEAT RESPONSE: I haven’t had the need to blowdry/straighten/curl, so I can’t really say.

CARE: I do not sleep with it OR apply any oil/serum. I also sometimes place the wig on my heater to air out any sweat residue during the day.

PROS: Great and efficient customer service, good delivery speed, Affordable price, Great Quality Hair, Fast response to calls and worldwide delivery.IMG_7921sirokkobeauty@gmail.com

IG: @SirokkoBeauty

xoxo

Tosin

WHO AM I TAG!

IMG_4354 copyHello! I was tagged by three lovely ladies on youtube to do this tag, Ify Yvonne, Esther150 & AmyLozy. I already put it on youtube twodays ago, but thought to share it with you all here :)

Questions Answered:

1. what would you do if the guy you liked proposed, but you remembered that his mum had a little crazy in her and his dad seemed to always flirt with girls your age?
2. If you had to change the name of your channel what Name would you pick?
3. What is the strangest thing you believed as a child?
4. Are you high maintenance? Explain.
5. What’s a strange occurrence you’ve experienced but have never (or rarely) shared with anyone?
6. What’s something that amazes you?
7. How has your birth order/characteristics of siblings affected you?
8. Have you ever changed clothes in a vehicle?
9. Are there any household chores you secretly enjoy? Which ones — and why?
10. What’s in your fridge, right this moment?
11. Would you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert?
12. Do you ever hunt for answers or omens in dreams?
13. What was your very first JOB?
14. If you were heading out on a ROAD TRIP right this minute, what would you pack?
15. Do you have any irrational fears?
16. What’s in your pocket (or purse, or man-purse) right now?

Ify’s channel

https://www.youtube.com/user/naijagirl88
Amy’s Channel
https://www.youtube.com/user/AmyLozy
Esther’s Channel
https://www.youtube.com/user/esther150

Hope you’re doing great!

speak soon!

xx

Tosin

WHAT I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS!

IMG_3722 copyHello!

Christmas is just around the corner! and I’m big on festivities. This christmas I won’t be spending it alone like I did last year so I’m excited! My baby brother is coming over, so expectposts/videos from us… he’s a character!  Anyway this year, there are a few things I want for christmas, some of which I’ve been saving for…

* A NEW TRIPOD: My old tripod did the job,  and I had no problems with it, till it broke last week (entirely a result of my carelessness)..I almost cried lol. So I need to get a new one. Would buy a stronger one this time.

* 50mm LENS: I currently use an 18mm-50mm range lens, but I feel a focus lens would be better for personal shots. I have had this on my to-buy list for a while now. So Its imperative I buy it once and for all.

* A NEW PHONE: My current Iphone has served me for 2years without problems, but lately the battery life has been awful. I tried to change it at the Apple store and they said £70, I walked away and bought a mobile charger (Alaroro behaviour). Now that the battery life has gone from 7hours to 30mins lol I certainly need a new phone. Plus I quite like the new Iphone so I may indulge.

* SAMSUNG TABLET: I’m an Apple girl but I don’t see the point in owning a M.A.C, IPhone and an IPad, hence I feel a Samsung tab is appropriate. It’s more compatible to other devices and user-friendly. I run a few social media accounts and I feel its more convienent running them on a tablet in comparison to a phone (It’s too much work load on a mobile phone).

* HAIR STEAMER: As a naturalista this is a great investment. It’s used for deep conditioning treatments. The steam helps to lift the hair cuticles and allows products absorb faster. Hair steaming promotes hair growth, adds moisture, removes dead skin, dirt and leaves hair stronger, smoother, softer and overall healthier.

*SOPHIA WEBSTER SHOES: Remember these shoes I shared in this O.O.T.D . I really like them but still contemplating. I’m not sure it’s wise to use my well-earned personal income on a £380 shoe at this stage in my life lol , but if I get them as a gift! I would rock them well ^.^

What do you want for christmas? I may be doing a giveaway this christmas to one special reader! So feel free to let me know what you want below !

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

Hope your week is going great! Don’t forget to catch me tonight on Ebony life TV Channel 165 on the blog it segment! 5:30 pm CAT central African time. With reruns at 8:30pm, 11:30pm and 11:30am tomorrow!

xoxo
Tosin

T.G.I.F: STRAWBERRY DAIQUIRI COCKTAIL

IMG_7661 copyHello,
So it’s the weekend and I was feeling a bit ‘groovy’ earlier lol…I decided to make a home-made cocktail since I had all the ingredients. I’m not really a drinker but with cocktails I make an exception. My favorite cocktail after a Piña Colada is a Daiquiri. So I made a strawberry one and filmed the tutorial. It’s simple and easy, plus you can try it this festive season for your friends if you’re having a house party….
Ingredients:
1. Fresh Lime Juice
2. Sugar Syrup (made with water and sugar on a boil)
3. Strawberry preserve/ fresh strawberries
4. Crushed Ice
5. 2-4 shots of White Rum
TOOLS: A cocktail shaker, knife, chopping board and wide rim glass.
DO WATCH AND SHARE! (It’s a minute short)

How to:

  1. Fill your shaker with lime juice, followed with sugar syrup. Mix well
  2. Pour in your shots of Rum,  and 3 chopped Strawberries OR a full spoon of strawberry preserve.
  3. Shake vigorously for 25 seconds until cold.
  4. Strain into a glass and garnish with a strawberry/lime wheel.

And that’s it!

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

Hope your week went great!

xoxo
Tosin

NEW IN: MANE CHOICE ‘MANETABOLISM’ HAIR VITAMINS

DSC_0405Hello!

(Everything written below, is in a video below- if you don’t like to read, you can watch my review instead ^.^)

Since I started my natural hair journey, I’ve never really been the one to take supplements or vitamins of any sort for hair growth. I am pro natural, from-inside-Out growth…..and regardless of using hair oils or  products I still believe in clean eating and a healthy lifestyle. However, recently I have been doing some research on the science of hair and the right nutrients required for hair growth.

Amidst my research I stumbled on Biotin, Niacin and folic acid, which not only helps the hair grow but improves overall health & immune system. I checked out popular hair supplements from Hairfinity, Holland & Barrett to Mane choice. I also read tons of reviews and did my own personal research before I made a decision on which one to buy. I would list below the factors that triggered/convinced me to buy Mane Choice above the others.

1. Reviews: I watched YouTube videos, followed growth journeys and testimonials in order to get first hand opinions from users. There were very few reviews on Holland & Barrett but tons on Hairfinity & Manechoice, So I focused on the two. 85% Of Hairfinity users in my sample size noticed visible growth but complained of the price point and facial breakouts. Which was attributed to the high dose of Biotin in it. Whereas Manechoice users experienced the same growth with next to none breakouts.

2. Price: Hairfinity cost about $35 initially, but I assume when the competition got fierce it was reduced to $24 to match Mane choice’ $24 price point. I bought two bottles of Manechoice for $45.98 (2-month supply deal), while Hairfinity costs $48(2-month supply). The difference is just two dollars which can be overlooked.

3. Advert Campaign: I’m a strong believer in quality advertisement and nothing misleading. These two companies have an intense online presence, with both using customer testimonials as a selling point. However I noticed that Hairfinity has hugely invested in celebrity endorsements which to me waters down the integrity of a “Health-based” company. I feel it’s not a luxury product so why the need for musicians, socialites or actresses as a marketing strategy. In comparison to Manechoice where the CEO, actually runs her Instagram account and has bridged the gap between customer & Company with regular people showing testimonials….making her brand seem more ‘interested, caring and genuine’ with their customers.

My shopping experience:

Mane choice is an American brand, they currently do not have a U.K vendor, hence I had to buy directly from the U.S website. For international orders like mine I had to mail a designated international-orders mail address to place an order. After which an invoice was prepared and sent to me via Paypal. Their Shipping normally costs  $12.98 to the U.K but they had a half-price off all international orders, so I paid only $6.49 for shipping. My total order costs $52.47 i.e (2bottles + shipping). My item was quickly shipped and I received it in 8days, it was sent with USPS but received via Royal Mail.DSC_0404

However, I was slightly irritated when Royal mail sent me a note saying it had arrived but I had to pay a £13.72 customs fee since it was an international package costing over £15. That extra fee could have gotten me another bottle.

I paid the charge and picked up the package from my local postoffice. It was well packaged and sealed as seen below.DSC_0401 DSC_0402

I intend to start using it and would give you monthly reviews to show growth/progress if any.

However I do advise anyone interested in taking supplements to check with their physician before purchase or usage.

For those in Nigeria you can buy Mane Choice from their Nigerian partner : Natural glamour, View HERE Or buy Hairfinity from Konga.comDSC_0410Everything written above, is in this video if you don’t like to read ^.^

I hope this initial review was helpful.

Have a great week ahead!

Don’t forget to drop questions or suggestions in the comment box below! I’d love to hear from you…

xx

Tosin

QUICK POST:OOTD|BASICS

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Jeans: Topshop| Necklace: Forever 21 | Bag in image: Saint Lauren (Mine: Therapy)| Shoes in Image: Louboutin| Lipstick: MAC Ruby Woo| Watch: Olivia Burton

Hello!

It’s the weekend, and I often look forward to activities. Today I had a couple of outings planned out. First was just the usual visits, shopping e.t.c… So I went for a casual look. I quite love heels and I would reach for them over flats. I often buy 4inch heels or court shoes that I can wear casually and be comfortable in….

I consider this look quite basic. A Blue office shirt and white Jeans. I paired them with minimal accessories.

Pardon the picture, it gets really dark here. At 4pm and it’s already pitch black so taking pictures outside is not smart/convenient. Plus the weather is getting really cold. Thank God for Heaters and taxis.

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                                                           Bag: Therapy Necklace: Newlook

Hope your weekend is going great…

xx

Tosin

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