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OOTD: SUNDAY

Happy Sunday! Hope you are well?Today I attended my friend Yejide’s church. It was her parent’s wedding anniversary and I decided to join in the celebration. I wore a sequin top and a highwaist front slit skirt from Asos. Yesterday I went for the Africa Fashion show and took lots of pictures from the runway. […]

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11 NEW PRODUCTS: ALL FROM NAIJANATURALS EVENT!

Hello!

Remember I said I had been busy all month but I mentioned that it would soon end……well, it has!

I’ve been working on my other baby @NaijaNaturals, A hair community for Nigerian naturalistas. I had to plan an event for it and that was taking most of my time, the event was a great success! thank God. I would do a post all about it subsequently (Sneak peak HERE).

Anyway, here are a few Items I got from the event. Most of which I was gifted by the vendors/sponsors that came to exhibit. The only Items I paid for were the lip balm and scrub from AJALI NATURALS. I really haven’t used any item enough to review them, but I will at a later time!

Hope you’re doing great?

1. AJALI NATURALS LIP SCRUB & BALM4roQi

2. DARK & LOVELY SCALP SOOTHER ( Courtesy TW magazine)

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3. DARK & LOVELY ANTI BREAKAGE MOISTURISERDSC_0067

4. MIDAS NATURALS SOFTENING & STRENGTHENING ELIXIRDSC_0064

5. O’NATURALS COCONUT OIL (Courtesy Omozo of O’naturals)NGvHp

6. O’NATURALS JOJOBA OIL (Courtesy Omozo of O’naturals)DSC_0059

7. O’NATURALS PEPPERMINT SHEA BUTTER (Courtesy Omozo of O’naturals)

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8. MAYA JUDE’S HAIR HOPE OIL DSC_0050

 

9. SATIN/ANKARA CAP (Courtesy Funmi of Elizabeth Cress)

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10. ANKARA BANDEAU (Courtesy Fashion strings)DSC_0079

11. BUTTERFLY CLAMPS (Courtesy Fashion strings)

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And that’s all! The other items I got were souvernirs……

Have an awesome week ahead!

Let me know if you attended (Shout out to the lovely Yomi Awe, an avid blog reader I met on saturday, lots of love) OR you’ve used any of these products before.

All personal images/Pictorials and videos are owned by Africanismcosmopolitan.com (Water marked/not……Except otherwise stated) and they may NOT be used in any way without prior consent of author, Legal actions would be taken.

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xoxo

Tosin!

More posts coming up! I’ve missed you all ^.^

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9TH APRIL

Hello,

How’s your day going….. Here’s an outfit post from today. My friend Henry came over to see me during lunch break and we took these photos. I’m getting used to people staring while I shoot blog pictures on the road……I love Nigerians LOL. Henry is super cool, He blogs at Thefashdiaries . Do check him out…

Today is my brother Jide’s birthday, and coincidentally I received some lovely cakes from Demi’s desserts, soo yummy! I would review them later so be on the look out…..

My outfit today was impromptu, I rushed out to the office this morning, but I guess it turned out good. I’m back to my hair.

Skirt: Blue Vanilla | Shirt: Primark| Shoes: Bumskii’s store| Bag: Therapy | Earrings: H& M| Hair: All mine LOL ^.^ IMG_4765

Hope you’re doing awesome! and Excited about the coming weekend?

Stay Happy

xoxo

Tosin

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

All personal images/Pictorials and videos are owned by Africanismcosmopolitan.com (Water marked/not……Except otherwise stated) and they may NOT be used in any way without prior consent of author, Legal actions would be taken.

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FEATURED: ROYAL ROOTS TV + EXTRA!

Hello! So I got invited to a Nigerian TV station, Royal Roots TV to discuss natural hair and blogging in general. I was very honored when I got the invitation, This is my second TV feature but my first live show. I was on the set with two lovely hosts, Derin and Fome. During the […]

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WEEKEND ROUNDUP!

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How do your week go, you all know how I love weekends, always something to do or just sleep like I do sometimes. This weekend for me was a busy one. On friday I went home straight from the office and just slept like a baby while on saturday I went to Lagos Island market with my friends Seun and Dewunmi.

Dewunmi blogs at koolstorys.com do check her out, her stories are awesome.

Here’s what I wore on friday…

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At the market, I wanted to get some fabrics and a new clothing rack for my room. The one I had collapsed the other day and I just couldn’t find another. Here’s a picture of how my old one looked like.

I found the fabrics at Ereko street Idumota, the guys that attended to us were very nice and courteous. I got 6 fabrics in total. 3 Silks and 3 Chiffons. I intend to make shift dresses and Iro & buba out of them….pardon how I look below, Seun is a horrid photographer lol. I wore an Ankara bubu(free maxi dress) and clutched my bag tight for security reasons, loitering hoodlums don’t play…..
It’s been three years since I visited Lagos market, but I could still find my way around. During our sojourn, my slippers cut, so I had to sit in a store whilst I get it fixed or buy a new one. A really nice store owner let me sit in her store and she looked for a cobbler for me. When she didn’t find one she offered me an extra pair of slippers in her store, which I was quite surprised by her extra kind gesture. I took them, went to buy a new pair and returned hers. Trust me, there are still nice people in this world. I didn’t even buy anything from her……such a lovely lady!

Moving on, I bought so much street food on my way round the market. From Boli(Roasted plantain) to Agbalumo/odara (White star fruit) to Smoked fish (Eja osan). I was just eating anyhow, luckily no food poisoning a day after…. I also got Fan Yogurt, My favorite!

The shopping experience, street food and scorching sun was fun lol .

p.s never wear makeup(not even powder like I did) to huge markets, Lesson learnt!

Fast forward to Sunday, I went to church with my lovely friend Obum, the sermon was awesome! The preacher talked about releasing all to God and just basking in his grace and mercy by faith. i.e releasing your fears, expectations, qualifications, worries e.t.c…….Since we are a product of grace we should walk in it boldly.

After church we changed into our slippers and went to Sweet kiwi in lekki as foodies ^.^. I think since I got back I’ve been there practically every weekend. My favorite mix is Kiwi and pineapple topped with granola and grapes, Yum! Also the store attendant asked if I wanted a loyalty card, and as a regular I’m entitled to 10% off henceforth ^.^ I said Yes with joy and collected it! *dancing*!!

From sweet kiwi I went to shoprite to look for the rack as I didn’t find any yesterday at the market, I found one at shoprite but wasn’t the one I was looking for so I just went to window shop instead. I ended up at the DAVIVA Store there, and bought this beautiful Ankara fabric, It was love at first sight. Yellow on dark skin is absolutely beautiful, can’t wait to sew this into a dress.

This weekend was eventful, Obum even lost her phone today, but thankfully someone found it, and hopefully we’d pick it up tomorrow evening.

This year has been a fantastic year so far, a few downs but God has been so faithful in all areas. One of my goals this year was to live a very full life, from the littlest of things to the biggest moments, I promised myself to live all cheerfully and in gratitude. So cheers to more outstanding moments this year.

Oh yes I have some good news for you all, but would share later this week ^.^


Before I leave to get some good dinner, you all know I develop SME’s for a living right? Incase you didn’t know, check me out HERE. This weekend I worked on a new client called RevampCloset Ng. They are a wardrobe design, closet management and layout company. So if you struggle with keeping a tidy and functional closet like me, do check them out HERE.

Logo design and branding by yours truly tosinalabi.com for RevampclosetNg

whitebackground1920x1200Hope your weekend was fantastic!

Have an amazing week ahead.

Incase you missed what I did last weekend, Read HERE , All my wakabouts are under the “OUTINGS” tab of the blog ^.^.

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

Xoxo

Tosin

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4. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Hello there!

Welcome to another edition of ’20 Lessons of my 20’s ( A segment that discusses various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman). Thank you always taking time to read these posts, I’m encouraged by your kind comments and shares! incase you missed the last edition, Read HERE. Today’s topic is “Emotional Intelligence” which for some reason I’ve been procrastinating, but the events of this week has prompted me to get this out there. so do read, share and enjoy.

As usual, All ‘lessons’ are solely a result of my personal experiences, but I do hope they are valuable and worth sharing to someone else. Do have an open mind whilst reading….


I personally feel Nigerians have quite an aggressive nature, not all but a large population. Even in the most simple scenarios like queues, traffic, or just gatherings, the forceful and imposing behavior just shows. We often fail to acknowledge the feelings of others and majorly have the “things must go my way” mentality. When whereas we should sometimes observe, evaluate, understand and adjust.
I did a brief survey and realised that 4 out of 5 people do not know what Emotional intelligence(E.I) is. I first heard this phrase a while back and due to my inquisitive nature I went ahead to do research on it.
So simply put, E.I is “effectively managing your emotions and that of others” . Meaning you are well aware of the way you feel towards things/people and considerate of how others feel. Hence, your actions and decisions follow suit.

“Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer defined emotional intelligence as, “the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions” (1990)

That is, you’re less aggressive, imposing, overbearing, overly sensitive and self-seeking.

Emotional intelligence allows you to manage people and also horn your leadership skills. It also gives you mental balance. You don’t get upset easily , you create room for people’s excesses, you have more control over your emotions and a more peaceful outlook to life.

There are many components to Emotional intelligence, like respect for the choices of Others, showing compassion, sense of humour when required, originality, applying intuition and creative reasoning. In essence, E.I promotes self-regulation i.e. the ability to control and redirect disruptive impulses and moods. This allows us to suspend judgement, and think before any action.

Further more, Emotional intelligence is largely linked with empathy, allowing you to treat and relate with people according to their emotional reactions. For example, my mum is quite sentimental, so being logical with her would never work. it would only get me infuriated and impatient. So now I’m learning to pad my opinions to her, especially when I feel strongly about an issue. Being abrupt and blunt may seem imposing and overbearing to her, so I need to soften my pitch and choice of words to attain a favorable response. Whereas I on the other hand despise patronage, I’d rather you say it as it is no matter how unpleasant. So any one relating with me needs to understand that to get desired results.


One thing Emotional intelligence also teaches you is that not everyone can be emotionally intelligent, but as I tweeted the other day, this is when the fruits of the spirit comes in. “Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and my personal favourite “self-Control”.

I’d like to consider the faith-based perspective of Emotional intelligence as basically having the fruits of the spirit. Having this makes you more pleasant, understanding, and more relatable, which is when you can foster better and positive relationships with people.

There are several articles and teachings on E.I and it would be great if we read up on it to develop our reasoning quotient, Here’s a fantastic one I found for leaders: E.I FOR LEADERS

Do have a great day ahead!

16 Lessons to go. I hope to one day publish these writings into a book/compilation, but until then it’s all for you my blog readers!

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you

xoxo

Tosin


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5 NATURAL HAIR MYTHS DEBUNKED!

1. CERTAIN HAIRSTYLES GROW HAIR:

Growing up I was told that hairstyles like african threading or Didi(inverted conrows) grows hair or makes your hair fuller. This is a flat-out lie. Whilst these hairstyles may ‘stretch your hair’ like a blow dryer will, It doesn’t ‘grow’ your hair. Hair growth is as a result of blood flow to the scalp. So anything that stimulates the flow of blood certainly aids growth. e.g exercise, massages and hot oil treatments….

2. NATURAL HAIR GROWS SLOWLY

My hair was longest when I was in elementary school, I had almost mid back length hair, then I cut my hair. Since then my hair never grew past nape length whilst relaxed. I cut my hair again 2 years ago and what took 17 years to reach armpit length has been achieved in two years so you judge. The average rate of hair growth per year is six inches, and this applies to ALL races. If you have a white/Asian friend whose hair grows faster than this, it’s not because of their race but their diet, genes, environment, etc. African hair grows at the same rate but the tight curl pattern makes it less obvious.Also we Africans generally have bad hair habits with our obsession with weaves, relaxers and once a month washing habit.

3. NATURAL/AFRO TEXTURED HAIR IS THE STRONGEST
This is a very common myth, but I’ve met many naturalistas with weak and brittle hair. Due to the nature of our hair texture we ought to take extra care while combing. No matter how thick your hair is, you should be gentle with it. Too much manipulation and excessive combing may break the hair off. The way our curl pattern is set up, there are more opportunities for it to break than in sleek straight hair.

4.TRIMMING MAKES HAIR GROW

The only job of trimming is to cut off split ends. (split ends are damaged ends, if you retain them they’d keep splitting upwards the hair shaft, and would eventually break off. then you can’t retain length). Although trimming is a healthy hair habit, it has nothing to do with the hair that grows out of your scalp. Split ends are not compulsory, you can have healthy hair from root to tip so you don’t need to trim off your healthy hair all in the name of preventing split ends.

5. WATER WILL DRY OUT NATURAL HAIR

Water is the best moisturizer for natural hair. The key to maintaining a moisture balance is retaining the water that you do apply to your hair via sealing(L.O.C methods). So your hair shouldn’t always be dried out, dry hair promotes breakage and brittle hair strands. Hair needs moisture for effective conditioning. You should buy products that are water based also.. (the first ingredient is usually water/h20)

And that’s all!

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

All the best in your hair journey.

xoxo

Tosin

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OOTD : MAROON

Hello!

During my lunch break today I decided to take some pictures for O.O.T.D.

Lagos heat would not even allow someone to form fresh, lol…….oh well

Photocredit: Ann & Mike

Pants: Forever 21|| Shoes: Topshop|| Bag: Therapy|| Hair: Raefranhair UK-Kinky peruvian

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Hope you day is going well…..

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
Have a great weekend! speak to you soon…
xoxo
Tosin

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ABOUT A YEAR AGO TAG + GIVEAWAY WINNER

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So I was tagged by the wonderful sisiyemmie a while back to do this video, and I’ve filmed it twice….. but lost the footage. So please bear with me for my lateness! The video is a recap of 2014 and I answered all the questions below.
1) Biggest Accomplishment of 2014
2) Best Memory of 2014
3) Biggest Obstacle of 2014
4) Top 5 favorite beauty products of 2014
5) Bloopers from 2014 (I skipped this)
6) Favorite Mainstream YouTubers and Non-Mainstream YouTubers (Skipped my mind)
7) Regret(s) of 2014
8) Most Memorable phrases from the year 2014
9) Most Embarrassing Moment of 2014
10) Lessons Learned from 2014
11) Goals for 2015
12) What I’m looking forward to in the New Year (2015)

KINDLY WATCH IN HD FOR PREMIUM QUALITY.

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My week started great, went jogging this morning and felt refreshed….My resolution for the week is to take only water no juices or fizzy drinks…I found 2-3 pimples on my face and i’m not happy about that. so operation clean eating, more water, exercise and more sleep.

************ The Giveaway winner for the 12 cupcakes from Vanilla Cake Factory is @Sisisingele, I chose her because she wanted to gift out the cupcakes to her friend(which is what love is about). She also followed the rules. Congrats Sisi please send your full name, address and phone number to info@tosinalabi.com !

Another set of cupcakes to be given out today, so watch out ^.^

Hope you all are doing great? Have a productive week ahead

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
Have a great day ahead! speak to you soon…
xoxo
Tosin

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Instagram: @Lynnjaphet

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GET MY LOOK: WORK CLOTHES

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Been a while I did a ‘Get my look post’, so here’s one from yesterday! I haven’t been able to conveniently take pictures with my camera, It’d be weird setting up a tripod and snapping my self in Nigeria, you people show no mercy when it comes to stares and laughter lol, so till I find a willing friend/photog no proper O.O.T.D…… Anyway, outfit details are below.

PEPLUM TOP: H&M BUY HERE

BELT: ASOS BUY HERE

SKIRT: BUY SIMILAR HERE

SHOES: Kurt Geiger BUY HERE

BAG: THERAPY

Hope your day is going well!

Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…

Xoxo

Tosin

 

 

 

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