WEEKEND ROUNDUP!
Posted on March 15, 2015 5 Comments
Hello!
How did your week go, you all know how I love weekends, always something to do or just sleep like I do sometimes. This weekend for me was a busy one. On friday I went home straight from the office and just slept like a baby, while on saturday I went to Lagos Island market with my friends Seun and Dewunmi.
Dewunmi blogs at koolstorys.com do check her out, her stories are awesome.
Here’s what I wore on friday…
Shoes: River Island|Purse: HOF|Jeans: newlook
At the market, I wanted to get some fabrics and a new clothing rack for my room. The one I had collapsed the other day and I just couldn’t find another. Here’s a picture of how my old one looked like.
I found the fabrics at Ereko street Idumota, the guys that attended to us were very nice and courteous. I got 6 fabrics in total. 3 Silks and 3 Chiffons. I intend to make shift dresses and Iro & buba out of them….pardon how I look below, Seun is a horrid photographer lol. I wore an Ankara bubu(free maxi dress) and clutched my bag tight for security reasons, loitering hoodlums don’t play…..
It’s been three years since I visited Lagos market, but I could still find my way around. During our sojourn, my slippers cut, so I had to sit in a store whilst I get it fixed or buy a new one. A really nice store owner let me sit in her store and she looked for a cobbler for me. When she didn’t find one she offered me an extra pair of slippers in her store, which I was quite surprised by her extra kind gesture. I took them, went to buy a new pair and returned hers. Trust me, there are still nice people in this world. I didn’t even buy anything from her……such a lovely lady!
Moving on, I bought so much street food on my way round the market. From Boli(Roasted plantain) to Agbalumo/odara (White star fruit) to Smoked fish (Eja osan). I was just eating anyhow, luckily no food poisoning a day after…. I also got Fan Yogurt, My favorite!
The shopping experience, street food and scorching sun was fun lol .
p.s never wear makeup(not even powder like I did) to huge markets, Lesson learnt!
Fast forward to Sunday, I went to church with my lovely friend Obum, the sermon was awesome! The preacher talked about releasing all to God and just basking in his grace and mercy by faith. i.e releasing your fears, expectations, qualifications, worries e.t.c…….Since we are a product of grace we should walk in it boldly.
After church we changed into our slippers and went to Sweet kiwi in lekki as foodies ^.^. I think since I got back I’ve been there practically every weekend. My favorite mix is Kiwi and pineapple topped with granola and grapes, Yum! Also the store attendant asked if I wanted a loyalty card, and as a regular I’m entitled to 10% off henceforth ^.^ I said Yes with joy and collected it! *dancing*!!
From sweet kiwi I went to shoprite to look for the rack as I didn’t find any yesterday at the market, I found one at shoprite but wasn’t the one I was looking for so I just went to window shop instead. I ended up at the DAVIVA Store there, and bought this beautiful Ankara fabric, It was love at first sight. Yellow on dark skin is absolutely beautiful, can’t wait to sew this into a dress.
This weekend was eventful, Obum even lost her phone today, but thankfully someone found it, and hopefully we’d pick it up tomorrow evening.
This year has been a fantastic year so far, a few downs but God has been so faithful in all areas. One of my goals this year was to live a very full life, from the littlest of things to the biggest moments, I promised myself to live all cheerfully and in gratitude. So cheers to more outstanding moments this year.
Oh yes I have some good news for you all, but would share later this week ^.^
Before I leave to get some good dinner, you all know I develop SME’s for a living right? Incase you didn’t know, check me out HERE. This weekend I worked on a new client called RevampCloset Ng. They are a wardrobe design, closet management and layout company. So if you struggle with keeping a tidy and functional closet like me, do check them out HERE.
Logo design and branding by yours truly tosinalabi.com for RevampclosetNg
All images were taken with my phone! it did a good job I think…
Hope your weekend was fantastic!
Have an amazing week ahead.
Incase you missed what I did last weekend, Read HERE , All my wakabouts are under the “OUTINGS” tab of the blog ^.^.
Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
Xoxo
Tosin
4. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Posted on March 12, 2015 3 Comments
Hello there!
Welcome to another edition of ’20 Lessons of my 20’s ( A segment that discusses various things I’ve learnt and I’m still learning as a young woman). Thank you always taking time to read these posts, I’m encouraged by your kind comments and shares! incase you missed the last edition, Read HERE. Today’s topic is “Emotional Intelligence” which for some reason I’ve been procrastinating, but the events of this week has prompted me to get this out there. so do read, share and enjoy.
As usual, All ‘lessons’ are solely a result of my personal experiences, but I do hope they are valuable and worth sharing to someone else. Do have an open mind whilst reading….
I personally feel Nigerians have quite an aggressive nature, not all but a large population. Even in the most simple scenarios like queues, traffic, or just gatherings, the forceful and imposing behavior just shows. We often fail to acknowledge the feelings of others and majorly have the “things must go my way” mentality. When whereas we should sometimes observe, evaluate, understand and adjust.
I did a brief survey and realised that 4 out of 5 people do not know what Emotional intelligence(E.I) is. I first heard this phrase a while back and due to my inquisitive nature I went ahead to do research on it.
So simply put, E.I is “effectively managing your emotions and that of others” . Meaning you are well aware of the way you feel towards things/people and considerate of how others feel. Hence, your actions and decisions follow suit.
“Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer defined emotional intelligence as, “the subset of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one’s own and others’ feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one’s thinking and actions” (1990)
That is, you’re less aggressive, imposing, overbearing, overly sensitive and self-seeking.
Emotional intelligence allows you to manage people and also horn your leadership skills. It also gives you mental balance. You don’t get upset easily , you create room for people’s excesses, you have more control over your emotions and a more peaceful outlook to life.
There are many components to Emotional intelligence, like respect for the choices of Others, showing compassion, sense of humour when required, originality, applying intuition and creative reasoning. In essence, E.I promotes self-regulation i.e. the ability to control and redirect disruptive impulses and moods. This allows us to suspend judgement, and think before any action.
Further more, Emotional intelligence is largely linked with empathy, allowing you to treat and relate with people according to their emotional reactions. For example, my mum is quite sentimental, so being logical with her would never work. it would only get me infuriated and impatient. So now I’m learning to pad my opinions to her, especially when I feel strongly about an issue. Being abrupt and blunt may seem imposing and overbearing to her, so I need to soften my pitch and choice of words to attain a favorable response. Whereas I on the other hand despise patronage, I’d rather you say it as it is no matter how unpleasant. So any one relating with me needs to understand that to get desired results.
One thing Emotional intelligence also teaches you is that not everyone can be emotionally intelligent, but as I tweeted the other day, this is when the fruits of the spirit comes in. “Love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and my personal favourite “self-Control”.
I’d like to consider the faith-based perspective of Emotional intelligence as basically having the fruits of the spirit. Having this makes you more pleasant, understanding, and more relatable, which is when you can foster better and positive relationships with people.
There are several articles and teachings on E.I and it would be great if we read up on it to develop our reasoning quotient, Here’s a fantastic one I found for leaders: E.I FOR LEADERS
Do have a great day ahead!
16 Lessons to go. I hope to one day publish these writings into a book/compilation, but until then it’s all for you my blog readers!
Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you
xoxo
Tosin
ALL ABOUT MY HAIR: KINKY CURLY
Posted on March 8, 2015 6 Comments
Hello,
I received this hair I’ve been rocking from RaeFranHair_Uk, It was delivered to Lagos in 6days. It came via FEDEX. The package contained a 12″ closure, and 16, 18 and 20″ bundles of virgin kinky hair. The video below explains all hair and styling details, do watch for more information.
Kindly watch in HD for premium quality
This hair is specially made for naturalistas and its a good blend with 4c hair. It’s shoulder length because of it’s tight curls, but it’s stretched length is accurate.
I fixed it on a cap and wear it as a wig. Personally I feel curly hair is better on a cap for maintenance. Also I wash it with my herbal essence Hello hydration conditioner and apply Cantu Shea butter leave in conditioner afterwards.
Price: £170 for all bundles. However shipping is free if it’s a referral from this blog. Quote “TosinLynn” in your order mail.
Contact. I.G @raefranhair_uk
Mail: raefranHairuk@gmail.com
And that’s all!
Hope I answered all your questions.
Xoxo
Tosin
DENIM CO.
Posted on March 4, 2015 21 Comments
Hello!
Hope your day is going well, Here’s an outfit post from today.
Shirt: Forever 21| Jeans: Milien| Bag: Mischa Barton| Shoes: Next| Earrings: H&M| Glasses: Newlook
Photo credit: Ann Okpapi
Have a great day ahead…
xoxo
Tosin
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PRODUCT REVIEW : MILANI MINERAL COMPACT POWDER
Posted on March 2, 2015 38 Comments
Hello,
Since I started wearing makeup I’ve used about 5 brands in the powder department, started with Marykay then Ailin, Iman, Flori Roberts, M.A.C and now Milani.
I love my M.A.C products. I feel they are worth the hype and price point, however they may not be suitable for all weather conditions. I normally use the M.A.C mineralise skin finish. I love the glow it gives my face and how long it lasts, but since I got to Nigeria it hasn’t been my best friend.
Due to the heat, my face gets soiled quickly then the glow/bronze finish in the MSF powder makes me appear oily. I didn’t like the appearance.
My cousin Lanre introduced me to Milani powder late last year but I didn’t buy into the hype, so I chose not to get it. Two weeks ago, I went to my aunt’s studio and she was using Milani powder on a model, I loved the finish so I decided to get one for myself.
I bought the Milani mineral compact powder (shade 110 deep) from my local Beauty supply store (BBHbeauty supply, Shop E233, Ikota Shopping complex V.G.C Ajah). I got it for about N2,400. I tried it on and loved it even more. It’s natural, light weight and doesn’t overly cake my face. Although it’s more yellow toned than red, it works just fine on my skin. I use a Revlon photoready foundation and the Milani powder works well with it for everyday use.
On days where I have an event or want to look extra made-up I may reach for my M.A.C. But so far I love this powder. It covers well and the wearability is just perfect. 4-5hours then you may need to touch up depending on your skin type.
I rate this product 8/10 simply because they don’t have a wide spectrum in shades. Just 3 shades: Medium, warm and deep. Hence, people with deeper skin tones may struggle with choosing a shade from this particular line. Their pressed powder has a wider color range.
All three types of powder in the Milani powder range.
Do let me know if you use Milani or have used it in the past…….I’d like to know if my sentiment is just initial excitement lol…
Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
XOXO
Tosin
WEEKEND ROUNDUP
Posted on March 1, 2015 6 Comments
Hello,
How was your weekend? Mine was eventful as usual lol, I actually never liked going out but since I returned it seems there’s always somewhere to be. My family friend Esther decided to take me out, so she suggested we visited Lekki conservation centre(LCC), which isn’t too far from mine. It was a lovely place but not in my alley (You know I don’t like animals so I wasn’t really thrilled, Rather I was scared).. Those monkeys are something! Hopping up and down, I was petrified. I couldn’t even take the pictures confidently. But the overall experience was interesting.
We paid N1000 at the gate for sightseeing and the people there were helpful…..
After leaving LCC, I went to N-tyce lounge in V.I to meet up with my friend Tele who was showcasing at the fashion cookout, she has a vintage wear line, check them out HERE. I stayed there for 15minutes then headed back to Lekki to hang out with my friends Obum,Cynthia, Jennifer, Abby and Philomena at XOVAR lounge. I had redbull and spiced chicken…….it was a very relaxed atmosphere with NOT the most prompt staff lol, they took forever to attend to us…..
Anyway, my weekend was in all great besides the traffic, I got to catch up with many friends and also visit new places…. I’m falling more in love with Lagos daily ^.^
Have you been to Lekki conservation centre? if yes, tell me about your experience, but if no tell me if you will! ^.^
Hope your weekend was great aswell! Have a splendid week ahead!
Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
XOXO
Tosin
5 NATURAL HAIR MYTHS DEBUNKED!
Posted on February 26, 2015 5 Comments
1. CERTAIN HAIRSTYLES GROW HAIR:
Growing up I was told that hairstyles like african threading or Didi(inverted conrows) grows hair or makes your hair fuller. This is a flat-out lie. Whilst these hairstyles may ‘stretch your hair’ like a blow dryer will, It doesn’t ‘grow’ your hair. Hair growth is as a result of blood flow to the scalp. So anything that stimulates the flow of blood certainly aids growth. e.g exercise, massages and hot oil treatments….
2. NATURAL HAIR GROWS SLOWLY
My hair was longest when I was in elementary school, I had almost mid back length hair, then I cut my hair. Since then my hair never grew past nape length whilst relaxed. I cut my hair again 2 years ago and what took 17 years to reach nape length has been achieved in the two years I went natural…so you judge. The average rate of hair growth per year is six inches, and this applies to ALL races. If you have a white/Asian friend whose hair grows faster than this, it’s not because of their race but their diet, genes, environment, etc. African hair grows at the same rate but the tight curl pattern makes it less obvious.Also we Africans generally have bad hair habits with our obsession with weaves, relaxers and once a month washing habit.
3. NATURAL/AFRO TEXTURED HAIR IS THE STRONGEST
This is a very common myth. I’ve met many naturalistas with weak and brittle hair. Due to the nature of our hair texture we ought to take extra care while combing. No matter how thick your hair is, you should be gentle with it. Too much manipulation and excessive combing may break the hair off. The way our curl pattern is set up, there are more opportunities for it to break than in sleek straight hair.
4.TRIMMING MAKES HAIR GROW
The only job of trimming is to cut off split ends. (split ends are damaged ends, if you retain them they’d keep splitting upwards the hair shaft, and would eventually break off. then you can’t retain length). Although trimming is a healthy hair habit, it has nothing to do with the hair that grows out of your scalp. Split ends are not compulsory, you can have healthy hair from root to tip so you don’t need to trim off your healthy hair all in the name of preventing split ends.
5. WATER WILL DRY OUT NATURAL HAIR
Water is the best moisturizer for natural hair. The key to maintaining a moisture balance is retaining the water that you do apply to your hair via sealing(L.O.C methods). So your hair shouldn’t always be dried out, dry hair promotes breakage and brittle hair strands. Hair needs moisture for effective conditioning. You should buy products that are water based also.. (the first ingredient is usually water/h20)
And that’s all!
Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
All the best in your hair journey.
xoxo
Tosin
OOTD : MAROON
Posted on February 25, 2015 10 Comments
Hello!
During my lunch break today I decided to take some pictures for O.O.T.D.
Lagos heat would not even allow someone to form fresh, lol…….oh well
Photocredit: Ann & Mike
Pants: Forever 21|| Shoes: Topshop|| Bag: Therapy|| Hair: Raefranhair UK-Kinky peruvian
Hope you day is going well…..
Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
Have a great weekend! speak to you soon…
xoxo
Tosin
APPRECIATE YOU!
Posted on February 23, 2015 9 Comments
Hello!
Happy Monday! sure your weekend was great and if not, no worries…..better days ahead. My weekend was quite eventful, I attended the Closeup Cupid’s ball and met quite a couple of blog readers ^.^ shout out to everyone I saw–sad we didn’t take pictures.
**I would share personal/event pictures in a later post.
Unto today’s topic, I’m talking about you. I realised this weekend that people don’t give themselves enough credit. I don’t mean to be utterly self obsessed or arrogant self adulations that’s not healthy, I mean appreciating your self, Loving yourself regardless of your battles, failures or victories and not being too judgemental with yourself.
I understand we all have goals and many things to think about, but sometimes relax and thank God for YOU.
I used to be quite self-indulgent so I know there’s a thin line. However, I also know the benefits of thinking of yourself positively and understanding that you are enough. You are all that you need to be happy. I read a book by Adunni Badmus earlier this year titled ‘Absolutely enough’ and it opened me up to a new insight on self-appreciation.
When you appreciate yourself you automatically create a standard for how others treat you. It’s the same with self-love. Appreciating yourself goes beyond physical features or back logs of comparison…. It’s about releasing love to yourself and celebrating yourself regardless of any shortcoming.
I love the phrase “I used to” because it reminds me of how much I’ve conquered and what the future holds. No matter how ugly the past was it has indeed become past…….”I used to”
‘Self love is about knowing your values, your boundaries and honouring them. It’s about teaching others how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself. It is about being kind to yourself. It’s about looking after your mind, your body and your spirit; all three. It is about knowing you are worth it, Not only because of what you have achieved or what you look like or what others think of you, but because love is your birthright no matter what’.
Today I appreciate myself for being me. God moulded us in his own image, fearfully and wonderfully made. Today I appreciate your existence. I appreciate myself for growth, I appreciate myself for forgiving me and others, I appreciate myself for being entrepreneurial, I appreciate my beauty and myself for not using the world’s standard as a lens to measure…..
With all being said I want you to do the same….appreciate you.
Here’s an amazing poem my friend Cynthia shared on her instagram
https://instagram.com/p/zUKiQNjAU4/?modal=true
Tell me what you appreciate about yourself below, and If you don’t know, sit, think and reflect. It would come to you….I celebrate you!
Have a splendid day ahead
xoxo
Tosin.
LIPSTICK ADDICT TAG
Posted on February 20, 2015 3 Comments
Hello!
I was tagged by Esther 150 on youtube to do this tag, and I fimed the video earlier today.
I answered a few questions about my lipsticks and lip related products. Do enjoy.
P.s. I filmed this video in my bedroom but a different corner, and I think I like the white background(Picture above) better. Let me know what you think/which you prefer.
Connect:
INSTAGRAM: lynnjaphet
TWITTER: https://twitter.com/LLynn_J
SONGS: WOJU: kiss daniel
CAMERA: NIKON D5100
Editor: Final cut pro/Imovie
LIP PRODUCTS MENTIONED:
– Vaseline
– MAC Ruby Woo
– Rimmel No. 10 Lipstick
-Sleek Papaya punch
-Sleek Mystic
-Zaron lipstick in Dusk
– MAC flat out fabulous
-MAC Heroine
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QUESTIONS:
1. Favorite balm/treatment?
2. Best eye-catching red?
3. Best luxury & best drugstore?
4. Best MAC lipstick?
5. The most disappointing?
6. Liner – yes or no?
7. Best gloss?
8. Something extra!
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I tag:
→ AmyLozy
→NaijaGirl88
→ Tosin Alabi
→Sisi yemmie
→beauty & crushes
→meerah’s closet
→ 93Kaffy
→ LisaOfficallyLive
Got Questions, requests or suggestions? Kindly leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you…
Have a great weekend! speak to you soon…
xoxo
Tosin
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